That happened to me a couple months ago. I met an LJ friend for the first time at a party, and she seemed very happy to see me. She's been ignoring me for about a month now. Grr. (I kept thinking I had some kind of social virus, but then I thought back to other LJ folks that I've met who are still friends with me.) Sometimes I think it's best just to walk away...
there could be three things. First, she is not the most socially adept person, and doesn't know how to deal with you. Second, she may think she did something stupid at the party and very embarrassed of it. And third thing, some people take much longer to become friends. In the first case, i would do what you did - just walk away. In the second case, just ask her bluntly and in third, have enough patience if you think she's worth it.
I have always tried to love anyone who is a "friend" of mine, and I spend a lot of time caring about people only to discover that they care nothing about me when my life gets hard. I would say I have maybe 5 real friends, and nearly all of them are due to my perseverence in having them open up to me. I always stick with someone because I get a vibe from them that I should, no matter how cold their shoulder might be.
it does take time and eventually perseverence pays off. It took me almost a year to pursue a guy who became my best friend for life. We've been best friends since freshman year in college.
A friend stood me up Monday afternoon. I wasn't surprised. She didn't even ever call or reply to the text my other friend (we were all supposed to be meeting for lunch) sent her.
I don't like to write people off when they are genuinely friendly,but I also don't put a lot of effort toward someone after something like that.
everybody deserves a second chance, but if she's always like this, then she doesn't deserve your friendship, your care and your time and you should move on. if she has a plausible excuse, then i would try to work things out.
excuse me, I don't have any idea who you are but you friended me a few weeks ago. Who is this? Also, I find this entry quite intriguing, I know exactly where you are coming from.
My husband and I often face a problem like this: we find people who seem like they want to be friends, and they might get together with you once, but after that, you're lucky if they ever call you back.
I figure that if you try to get together with someone a second time, and all you ever get is excuses, then that person has no friend potential.
I remember a quote on friendship, but don't remember who said it: A friend will kill for you. A real friend will help you hide the body.
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Second, she may think she did something stupid at the party and very embarrassed of it.
And third thing, some people take much longer to become friends.
In the first case, i would do what you did - just walk away.
In the second case, just ask her bluntly and in third, have enough patience if you think she's worth it.
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I don't like to write people off when they are genuinely friendly,but I also don't put a lot of effort toward someone after something like that.
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if she has a plausible excuse, then i would try to work things out.
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I figure that if you try to get together with someone a second time, and all you ever get is excuses, then that person has no friend potential.
I remember a quote on friendship, but don't remember who said it: A friend will kill for you. A real friend will help you hide the body.
Makes sense in a morbid sort of way!
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Oh, can you recommend somebody, i need to hide couple of bodies. ;))
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