Comments | zephyrkel: things i wonder if i should really ponder out loud

zephyrkel

things i wonder if i should really ponder out loud

Jan 16, 2006 16:03

( on age and babies and such )

Comments 12

anacrucis January 16 2006, 22:33:06 UTC

i don't even know what i want to say, i'm so wrapped up in my life's own weirdnesses. just... yeah. 30.

vtgypsy January 16 2006, 23:02:33 UTC

Wow, you've just said things aloud that I've thought of a lot recently.

zephyrkel January 17 2006, 16:18:17 UTC

i guess it's just a 20's thang.... *smile*

jossel January 16 2006, 23:11:35 UTC

Bump the have-kids-before date up to 35, you'll feel a heck of a lot better.

zephyrkel January 17 2006, 16:33:47 UTC

yeah, that's a thought. a nice one =)

qualario January 17 2006, 00:30:33 UTC

I can appreciate the biological clock-ticking, but as for having kids on a timeline, I hope you can be able to have children and start a family when it is right for you, when you can be relatively secure in it, rather than by a birthday that could well be, for all intents and purposes, arbitrary. I mean, I had an idea of when I always thought I'd be married and starting a family--and I very nearly did get married. But I found after a lot of thought that I'd rather do it when it made the most sense, rather than at the wrong time simply because it was the time I'd always thought I would.

well, sure, but zephyrkel January 17 2006, 16:58:34 UTC

that's the thing about it.. there never was a deadline. i think about kids about as much as i think about changing my car's battery-- i.e. when something stops working the way it was.

i had this very vague idea about when i might potentially be starting a family... beginning with getting myself some sort of life partner. and it recently dawned on me that i'm a lot closer to that vague "when" than i'm really comfortable being.

samaphore January 17 2006, 01:19:31 UTC

I think I know of whose wedding we speak (?)

Anyway, I used to try to envision the ages at which I'd reach particular milestones, but then I realized I was just making myself crazy. It's not like you can schedule meeting your life partner.

While we're at it, I think one's 20s are too important socially and career-wise to worry too much about having kids. Focus on 32-33; much more reasonable and still totally biologically viable.

zephyrkel January 17 2006, 17:04:04 UTC

it's not the kids i'm after at the moment, so much as the rest of it. 32-33 is a more plausible timeline, though!