i know this probably won't feel like a solution for you, but you don't have to live to please other people. god it makes life harder. i think you just need (but obviously i don't know everything so don't think that i think i do lol) to find your quality friends and confide in them. as for the rest, in your unhappy posts you can cut them out of the people that can view it. some people are just too self involved to even think they can understand what you're feeling, and you shouldn't have to be punished for that. you don't need to keep the people that make you unhappy in your life. you can pick and choose your friends, whether you see that or not, so take control. that is my advice. i'm sorry that it isn't easy, and i'm sorry that i sound like i'm lecturing, i REALLY don't mean it like that.
Ya know, that is precisely what I think I needed to hear... I have always wanted to be everyone's friend, but it doesn't seem very possible, and I don't want to keep giving and giving but not recieving from some people. Thank you so much! It's exactly what I need to do. **HUGS!**
*huge hugs* i've been there. i just wrote this whole story about how i started, but then my computer acted like its stupid self. so i'll tell you some other time. anyway, i'm so glad i didn't come off as lecturing; i was so worried about that. all i can say is, "luv!"
A Few Things Need to Be SaidprtctdbyslvrspnMarch 22 2004, 08:00:58 UTC
First of all, Jen is right. Tends to be when it comes to shit like this, she has had a hell of a lot of experience with over-analyzing, as have I.
Second, I will say my bit, even though I know you hate me because I am a bitch. Most of all you need to do what is right for you. If that means posting the sad rantings, or whatever pisses other people off, then so be it. Sometimes I post things that only I can see, for two reasons: one so that I can vent it all out without pissing any one off, and two so that I don't say anything about anyone in particular that will offend someone, etc. I know that last part in your post does not pertain to me, as you have already written me off as a friend anyway, NOT the other way around. Sometime, I would like to tell you what it has been like for me, so maybe, just maybe you would understand, but that is entirely up to you.
Well I have said what I came here to say...and that is all I can do.
Re: A Few Things Need to Be SaidzorgtronnMarch 22 2004, 12:30:15 UTC
I do not consider you a bitch, and I have not decided I am not friends with you. And I would like to know what you feel about it all... but I have a tendency to argue. If you ever feel like writing it down, send me an e-mail. I will read it. Thanks for the reply Liz.
I don't know if this is directed at me, but Ben, you know I love you, you know I'm your friend... it's not that I don't want to be someone you can confide in, it is only that I have my limitations and recognize them as such... I can't fix things for you, and it's not that I don't want to help you, or that you piss me off when you tell me things, it is rather that I'm not that qualified
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Absolutely not directed at you in any way. It was a bit too harsh the way you phrased it in my opinion, and I thought you could have talked to me about it in a less accusatory way, but the post was not directed at you. Thanks for being concerned about it though.
Pretty much anything I could possibly say has already been said so I'll just say that you can't worry about what other people think or live your life trying to please everyone else. In the end the only person whose opinion about you matters is you own. That's how I live my life and that's how I think eveyone should live their lives especially you.
You're going to run across people throughout your life that don't like you but you can't let their disdain for you bring you down or make you feel like any less of a person. You are who you are and fuck everyone else.
You have but one option remaining to you, Ben: You must immediately spin around while clicking your heels, and also sprinkling multi-colored sprinles (must be equal amounts of the entire spectrum, even Indigo) upon frozen yogurt, whilst reciting "I am awesome. Crowder (or Carr) is Satan. Cherry Soda beats Orange Soda." three times.
Thusly will all your problems be exacerbated, Grasshopper. Or removed entirely. The Zen Question, then, is: What is the difference?
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And you did not sound lecturing. In any way :-)
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i've been there. i just wrote this whole story about how i started, but then my computer acted like its stupid self. so i'll tell you some other time. anyway, i'm so glad i didn't come off as lecturing; i was so worried about that.
all i can say is, "luv!"
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Second, I will say my bit, even though I know you hate me because I am a bitch. Most of all you need to do what is right for you. If that means posting the sad rantings, or whatever pisses other people off, then so be it. Sometimes I post things that only I can see, for two reasons: one so that I can vent it all out without pissing any one off, and two so that I don't say anything about anyone in particular that will offend someone, etc. I know that last part in your post does not pertain to me, as you have already written me off as a friend anyway, NOT the other way around. Sometime, I would like to tell you what it has been like for me, so maybe, just maybe you would understand, but that is entirely up to you.
Well I have said what I came here to say...and that is all I can do.
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You're going to run across people throughout your life that don't like you but you can't let their disdain for you bring you down or make you feel like any less of a person. You are who you are and fuck everyone else.
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Thusly will all your problems be exacerbated, Grasshopper. Or removed entirely. The Zen Question, then, is: What is the difference?
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