Comments | zuchini_head2: That boy....

zuchini_head2

That boy....

Aug 08, 2005 16:49

I will never ever EVER ask my bro to find out if someone is gay or not for me. Ok...so I asked him to find out if a certain person was during the senior year and he's like...no she's not. Today....I found out...HE LIED!! Agh! Ok. I should have asked myself but guess who was too chickenshit. Yup...me. So...But still!!! And now...I'm leaving ( Read more... )

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red_frog August 8 2005, 19:48:44 UTC

Okay, kiddo. The question is NOT "are you gay?". The question IS "Would you like to go get coffee?"

:)

The answer to #2 is the one you care about. After all, she could be gay and not want to go, or she could be bi (not identifying as gay) or even think she was straight (as your aunt did at that age) and want to go.

red_frog August 8 2005, 19:49:23 UTC

And on that note, ask her out for coffee. :)

zuchini_head2 August 9 2005, 07:42:07 UTC

Should I? hmm. I could I suppose. I have her phone number too 'cuz she went on the same Kairos retreat as I did.

jrtom August 9 2005, 10:57:59 UTC

What red_frog said ( ... )

un_paid_intern August 13 2005, 01:45:52 UTC

I know from experience on both ends (having been asked if I'm gay and having asked a few people if they were...long and complicated) that it's always better to get to know the person first...before I even considered telling a few friends that I'm bi I had to get to know them a bit first...

I also know from experience that the bro in question is generally clueless...he literally couldn't get the hint when I first met him that we just aren't made for each other...ever since him, my friends have been skeptical about my taste in guys...

jrtom August 13 2005, 12:59:12 UTC

I also know from experience that the bro in question is generally clueless...

I wouldn't say that he's _generally_ clueless. Like many--perhaps most--people, he's less clueful in matters that touch him and his emotions and desires directly. Part of this, also, is the arrogance of intelligence (i.e., the failure to appreciate that being smart doesn't mean that you are either informed or wise), and part of it is his (very common) desire to be seen as knowledgeable--or at least 'in the loop'.

un_paid_intern August 13 2005, 14:11:02 UTC

...and I know as his supposedly psychotic ex that he can be clueless...almost every time we talked he tried to psycho-analyze me...and he was always wrong...AN INTRO TO PSYCHOLOGY DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE AN EXPERT ON THE HUMAN PSYCHE (let alone an expert on my psyche...it took several sessions before my psychologist [a trained professional] could figure out what to make of me)...that's the only big problem I have with him...

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funky_monkey52 August 9 2005, 21:02:14 UTC

Send her a message on myspace...just start talking to her. Go hang out with her. Get to know her without the gay issue, then you wont need a third party to ask them cause youll know very well yourself. However that just my opinion, not sure if its even my place to give it :/, but go for it girl. Get to know as many people as you possibly can. Your moving I know bummer, but friends rock. :) :) :) :)