5 Months?

[limelight_lude]

That's it? Time flies!

To remember me...
Six Months Progress Post, show me your cake flavors, Intro Post in weddingplans, guestlist whining and Intro Post at 2009_weddings

Well, here we are at 5 months. Very short post because, since school's been winding up, not too much has happened.

Comments

[oxymoron02]

We were married on Saturday, and he knew in advance that I was not taking his name. He was a little disappointed, but not at all surprised. I, very conspicuously, wear the pants in this relationship. I hate jewelery, so that I was willing to wear a ring made up for not taking his name. It feels weird, but I've agreed to wear it, so wear it I shall.

I like my name. I've always liked my name. Except for a brief period when I was a teenager and living in a happily-ever-after-knight-on-white-horse pipe dream, I've always intended on keeping my last name if I ever married. This is my first, if it matters.

He's just happy I agreed to marry him in the first place. I take pretty good care of him.

People asked if I would hyphenate, my response is that Master Yoda says "Do or Do Not, there is no try" so I was going to take his name or not, no middle ground. No offense intended to those who choose to do it. My universe has very little gray in it. He'll tell you this is my biggest flaw. :)

[jessiedwheelie]

Oh my god, the name change thing was a nightmare for me. I wasn't sure if was going to do it and was musing about that one day to my FH and when I looked at his face, it was like I'd stabbed him the heart

[rowa17]

Love this.

I took his name and I was thrilled to do it. It's so fun. I don't do the tattoos or piercings thing, my weight doesn't fluctuate much, and I rarely change my hairstyle...this was about as big a reinvention as I'll ever get! :-)

That said, on principle, it does bug me that women take the mens names...but overall, I want my kids and my hubby and I to have the same name - and he has the cooler last name. :-) I never liked my maiden name much.

Marriage for me is an eternal undertaking, and my eternal family during and after this life is my number one priority...so my feminist self "got over it" so to speak, because I know the name really only applies in the world, and my family means more than wordly things to me.

I guess I'm saying - I think it's beautiful and uniting for a family to all have the same name. Maybe someday we'll evolve to a point where it's totally normal for men to take womens names, and I hope we do get there, that'd be awesome. THen you just have to pick who has teh cooler name. :-)

[zante]

I am getting married on Sunday (Dec 13) and dearly wish to keep my surname... but I do not want to hypen/have different names to my children and husband...

I am going from Wild to Evans... I keep asking my fiance to come over to the Wild side.... but he doesn't think he is Wild enough.... I do feel sad about it... And think I probably will for the rest of my life, because my name means almost everything to me, but I do NOT want a different name to my family.

[shabonmerc]

I legally changed my last name to my husband's, but I've kept it for some professional purposes. I really like my maiden name, but I knew that he would be upset if I didn't take it, and also it was the most practical thing to do. I'm a first grade teacher, and more than once have gotten notes that say, "Please let my daughter out of gym today" and signed by a mom with a different last name, which leaves me with the task of hunting through all the kids to try to figure out who the note belongs to. In first grade, when very few have an understanding that their mom has a different last name, that's a pain in the butt.

I'm also a YA author, and have told my husband quite clearly that I wanted to be an author long before I ever wanted to marry him, so in the book world, the maiden name stays.

[angelprojekt]

My biggest problem has been the fact that I have 3 middle names, and when I asked Social Security how I could keep all my names but add his, I basically got "does not compute."
So, needless to say, my name change is still in progress, two months after the wedding!