Yeah, you are probably right. Although at least 3 of the guys I talked to were willing to go down on girls, if they wanted it. Communication always seems to be the key.
I think the point of attraction is staying power. This day and age sex does not automatically equal a relationships longevity. To keep a man you have to keep him interested. While it's not entirely a girls game (guys gotta keep the gals interested too) there is a sort of allure to a dominate woman who takes charge of her man in bed. And this is the option I hear most often from my guy friends.
And I'm the same way about Oral. But you are right, there are a lot of risks with any sexual act. I am not expecting people to think that sex of any kind is a good idea outside of a committed relationship but you have to keep the relationship strong, or it wont stay committed for long!
And hunny, your track record and mine can't be much different but a girl has to have an opinion!
Yep... I just got so much thought bottled up on the topic over the past few weeks, I needed to let it out!
And so what if we don't get opportunity? The basic concepts (Confidence, strength and seizing control) are still valid for any girl. They all make you attractive, to yourself and to others!
And yeah, I made this unlocked, while it would suck if my parents saw, I'm kinda to that point where its just not worth it to keep hiding info. Besides, if one of my friends' friends stumbles onto this, I want them to be able to read it. I put it on my tumblr too!
I usually prefer blow jobs just because it makes less mess.
Although that applies better to those who swallow. (Which apparently guys find hot? I don't know why.)
But still, even if the girl doesn't like to swallow, which is easier to take care of: the jizz that is all over the damn place--your hands, his stomach, his dick, his whatever--or the jizz in your mouth?
And I dunno, I just think it would feel better for him, simulate "actual" sex more with the mouth than the hand. And it's less tiring, if it starts taking a bit too long, lol.
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I also am not a big fan reciprocation. Like, I'll go all down on his business, but I don't particularly want his face anywhere NEAR mine. If he offers, I won't really say no, but I'm not gonna ask him for it. lol.
Yeah, I think it's 1 part hot (which I'll never totally get) and 1 part not us spitting it out like its gross, which is probably a buzz kill and a slight on them... Thats my thought process.
And I'm totally with you on the mess. In your mouth = no muss and no fuss, a glass of water and come Colgate solves that problem, as opposed to a load of laundry and awkward "Great... now we have to clean this up" moment afterwards.
Yeah, if you are gonna play different games than "standard" sex... do the one that appeals to you and him!
And I'm find that a lot of my friends seem to be hesitant or dislike him going down there! I feel better about my position on it now, I thought I was weird for being against it! Yay!
I think there's something to be said for the quiet sort of love that anticipates and fulfills need, in addition to being in control or whatever. You don't, in my opinion, have to be in control to give a fantastic blow job. Though the more interesting circumstances usually happen that way
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Yeah, legitimately I can understand apparently most people do not appreciate or cannot appreciate the swallowing thing... which as I think about it, is totally cool, as long as the guy you are with understands and you are communicating that.
You are probably right. But like I have said; this post was really just a discussion on one itty bitty facet of a relationship that should already be communicative and trusting as well as respectful (didn't include that, should have). I wasn't trying to insinuate that a relationship should be founded on a girls ability to give head, or that a blow job can take the place of good structure and trust in a relationship.
It's just one area a few of my guy friends admitted to me they felt there lives were lacking, and I had an opinion that would be preaching to the choir for them, so I just decided to post it here. :)
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I think the point of attraction is staying power. This day and age sex does not automatically equal a relationships longevity. To keep a man you have to keep him interested. While it's not entirely a girls game (guys gotta keep the gals interested too) there is a sort of allure to a dominate woman who takes charge of her man in bed. And this is the option I hear most often from my guy friends.
And I'm the same way about Oral. But you are right, there are a lot of risks with any sexual act. I am not expecting people to think that sex of any kind is a good idea outside of a committed relationship but you have to keep the relationship strong, or it wont stay committed for long!
And hunny, your track record and mine can't be much different but a girl has to have an opinion!
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Of course, I don't often get the opportunity, so *shrug*
You are aware that this is an Open Post, not Locked...right? :-)
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And so what if we don't get opportunity? The basic concepts (Confidence, strength and seizing control) are still valid for any girl. They all make you attractive, to yourself and to others!
And yeah, I made this unlocked, while it would suck if my parents saw, I'm kinda to that point where its just not worth it to keep hiding info. Besides, if one of my friends' friends stumbles onto this, I want them to be able to read it. I put it on my tumblr too!
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Which really stinks! I know I have a lot to offer! But finding someone to accept (who I'd be willing to have accept...did I mention I'm picky?)...
*sigh*
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Although that applies better to those who swallow. (Which apparently guys find hot? I don't know why.)
But still, even if the girl doesn't like to swallow, which is easier to take care of: the jizz that is all over the damn place--your hands, his stomach, his dick, his whatever--or the jizz in your mouth?
And I dunno, I just think it would feel better for him, simulate "actual" sex more with the mouth than the hand. And it's less tiring, if it starts taking a bit too long, lol.
::shrug::
I also am not a big fan reciprocation. Like, I'll go all down on his business, but I don't particularly want his face anywhere NEAR mine. If he offers, I won't really say no, but I'm not gonna ask him for it. lol.
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Yeah, I think it's 1 part hot (which I'll never totally get) and 1 part not us spitting it out like its gross, which is probably a buzz kill and a slight on them... Thats my thought process.
And I'm totally with you on the mess. In your mouth = no muss and no fuss, a glass of water and come Colgate solves that problem, as opposed to a load of laundry and awkward "Great... now we have to clean this up" moment afterwards.
Yeah, if you are gonna play different games than "standard" sex... do the one that appeals to you and him!
And I'm find that a lot of my friends seem to be hesitant or dislike him going down there! I feel better about my position on it now, I thought I was weird for being against it! Yay!
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You are probably right. But like I have said; this post was really just a discussion on one itty bitty facet of a relationship that should already be communicative and trusting as well as respectful (didn't include that, should have). I wasn't trying to insinuate that a relationship should be founded on a girls ability to give head, or that a blow job can take the place of good structure and trust in a relationship.
It's just one area a few of my guy friends admitted to me they felt there lives were lacking, and I had an opinion that would be preaching to the choir for them, so I just decided to post it here. :)
BUT OMH YOU ARE POSTING ON MY JOURNAL! YAY!
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