coming out?

[joeycleve]

hi -

any suggestions for how to come out to my very religious, right-wing family?

thanks.   

Comments

[pensivegargoyle]

It doesn't look like there's any big barriers to you telling them, so have at it. Or you could arrange what happened to me by accident and instead of telling them yourself, have a friend come by who effectively blurts it out because they assumed it was known.

I can't guarantee that it's going to be a picnic, though you might be pleasantly surprised. Just don't let yourself be bullied or guilted into anything - you'll have given them the information, they'll have to decide how to deal with it.

[rogonandi]

If you're not dependant on your family (which I get from reading the other comments) then by all means come out of the closet. It's not like they're going to kick you out of the house or anything like that.

You should still try to do it with some class though, like treat them to some kind of nice dinner and have a nice time. Then let them know this fact about you and give them some time to soak it in if they need that. Even though your family may be very conservative, they may still accept you even if it may take some time.

[c_smudge]

be financially independent first, have a support network already in place

[kaji_kun]

Everyone is telling you how to come out so that you parents will accept you but the reality of it is that you can't control how they'll react. Sure some methods (being calm, upfront and honest and present it during a period of low stress in their lives) are better than others (having someone blurt it out). My advice is not to worry about what they will do/say/think/react, think about how this is going to effect you and how you will deal with at very least some mild awkwardness and at very worst being disowned. Do you know how you would handle the grief of losing your family?

[ramsesthesecond]

Hello