Lynn Gilderdale, RIP

[belle_marmotte]

Some of us knew her as Jessie Oliver, her pseudonym here on LJ where she blogged as _chaotictears_Those who met her in real life after she became ill have documented what they saw; a girl who could not speak, who could not move from her bed, her body broken by severe ME and forced into meltdown by the invention of misguided medical professionals. Those with

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[mind_travel]

Yes, thank you.

Didn't know you were on Facebook, I'm here: http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?id=733336926&ref=nf

there's another facebook group for her too.

[belle_marmotte]

Thanks L, I can't seem to find the other group, so if you've got the details please send them to me so I can join that too.

It's great to finally 'see' you on there. I'll have to get around to uploading a picture. Preferably when I've managed to wash my hair and put on clean pjs!

[mind_travel]

Hiya,

sorry for my inadequate response earlier to your lovely and thoughtful post, I don't know what I'm doing at the moment.

I'll send you an invite for the other group. I've found a further one that looks good too, I'm going to join and I'll send you an invite for that one as well.

Thanks. I only take the occasional photo of myself as I hate looking awful and ill.

This keeping clean malarkey takes so much energy when you have M.E. doesn't it. I often think of all the things I could do if I didn't have to wash! Look forward to seeing a photo of you anyway! :o)

[nonamoose]

I was so sad to hear of her passing and even sadder to discover she was _chaotictears_

My thoughts are with her family and every one of friends right now. Her loss will touch many.

T x

[belle_marmotte]

Her loss will touch many

It will indeed. She had a large network of online friends and she managed to make us all feel special and valued.

For one with so much of a burden to bear in life she gave so much love and support.

I just wanted somewhere that she could be remembered for the person she really was.

[island_rose]

Very well said, you found the words I could not at this hard time.

Rest in Peace Jessie, we'll miss you so very much as you had such a massive impact on our lives. All my love, your close friend Rose xxx

*hugs to you* I know you must be struggling, as I and many other friends are. Friends were such a massive and important part of Jessie's life and I know she treasured and loved us all x

[belle_marmotte]

*hugs you back*

It was a shock, not so much to learn that she had died, but the circumstances surrounding it really shook me (police involvement and the arrest of her poor mum) and I'm sure it was the same for you too.

I know she would never have thought that her choice would have resulted in this amount of police and media interest.

I'm really hoping the CPS decide that pursuing her mum isn't in the public interest, as they did with the family of the boy who went to Switzerland following his rugby accident.

I have to say I've avoided the media all day today.

[island_rose]

Thanks for the hugs, much needed.

I know what you mean, all the media coverage has been most distressing and the curcumstances around her death. Its the last thing Jessie would of wanted, especially when I highly doubt her mum did anything wrong.

Its hard enough when you loose a friend let alone the added hurt/shock the media can cause. Its the last thing we all needed and as for her mum, well that must of been truly awful...she had just lost her daughter and within 2 hours she was taken by the police. Its just awful and upsets me deeply as I am sure it has others.

I'm thinking of you too, as I know you were friends also and its so hard loosing someone...I am struggling so much even though I know Jessie is finally at peace.

Love and hugs xxx

[augusthime]

I don't.. know what to say... ._______. I can't believe they would try to charge her mother for murder. Hasn't she been through enough?!

I didn't know these people, but I'm still very sorry. *hugs you* If there is anything I can do, you'll let me know?

For all of her suffering, I'm glad she's in a better place, now. ♥

[dragonsally]

oh my god, I didn't realise she was chaotic tears. Now this has really personally touched me too, I've read and 'enjoyed' so many of her comments and posts. Shit.

more gentle hugs

[belle_marmotte]

I think we all need a group hug.
((hug))

Yes I didn't realise until I saw something on bunny's blog and then out of the blue I saw the news item on Channel 4 at about 7.30pm last night about the arrest and release on bail of her mum. I went into shock.