Comments | boliver: Mommy?

boliver

Mommy?

Feb 03, 2005 10:45

I'm considering giving my mom my LJ address, though I doubt she'd think to read it much- she's not exactly a high-end computer user. She hasn't fired up the AIM we loaded for her in, like, forever. And when she wasked what I wanted for Xmas, and I couldn't think of anything (you know life is good when that happens), I eventually reluctantly told ( Read more... )

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boliver February 3 2005, 19:01:34 UTC

So, I just looked back on my past posts, and I don't think it's advisable for me to share this LJ with my mom. Below, I referred to my brother being like her, and she wouldbe really taken aback by that because they really don't get along. And my memory sucks, so inevitably I'd forget and write something that would hurt her feelings. And while the odds are excellent that she'd look here, not read all the past posts, and then forget all about it, I don't think I can take that chance.

Also, I've mentioned my dad much more than her here, and I don't think that would sit well either. After he royally screwed her over years and years, when she had the moral high ground, I talk to my dad more and therefore post about him more.

So, never mind. Not gonna happen.

ace_and_sep February 3 2005, 19:35:55 UTC

I've shared my Live Journal with just about everyone *except* my parents. It came up over Christmas and my mom got a little sulky (she HATES to be left out of anything) but whatever. For me, the LJ is a way to communicate with people I like who don't live where I do. My parents live in the same town and we see each other all the time. They don't need to read what I think about Battlestar Galactica etc., 'cause I'll just tell them in person.

--Ace

allthatjazmyne February 3 2005, 20:37:28 UTC

I've shared my LJ with my mom, and I know she reads it often. I tell her pretty much everything, so I don't really self-censor much*. Still, there have been a few times when I've thought, "Do I want to say that? Am I comfortable with Mom knowing that?" And mostly, things I wouldn't want her to know are things that I wouldn't tell anyone, so I just don't write them. When I first told her about my LJ, she read it, and said, "I sometimes wonder what your other friends think of me based on what you've written." But I don't worry about that.

*The lack of self-censoring happens in all walks of life. I was once telling the women's group at church about an upcoming dinner, which was only for the High Priests and their wives, and any widows, and I said, "No fair bumping off your husband so you can go." When several people giggled uncomfortably, I thought, "Hmmm, maybe not appropriate. Good to know."

boliver February 3 2005, 20:51:10 UTC

In my case, it's a thing where I'm willing to TELL her anything, but I know certain things will really hurt her if I talk about them here, and I have that same lack of self-censoring. Examples of what she wouldn't be able to take ( ... )

allthatjazmyne February 3 2005, 22:21:09 UTC

I get that. I occasionally think, "Maybe I should tell everyone that my mom is an awesome person who is one of my best friends, and who I love dearly, just so they don't think otherwise due to my saying ___," but instead I just hope that my overall feelings for and relationship with my mom are clear based on everything I say and do that relates to her. I suppose I hope that I just exude it, without having to actually say it.

jenelope February 3 2005, 21:06:49 UTC

I don't share my LJ with any of my local friends and family. Most, if not all, of them know about it, and it wouldn't be that difficult to figure out the user ID, but for most of them, I have faith that their lack of technology skills and general forgetful nature will protect me. I don't filter as a general rule, and I do write stuff that I don't want my loved ones to read. Not often, but sometimes.

My family knows enough about me without letting them in on this.

rustydog February 4 2005, 03:21:00 UTC

Like jenelope, I don't share my LJ with family, or friends I know from places other than (originally) online. My family are less advanced than I in technology/internet skills, whether for lack of interest or because they just will never get it. My dad is the exception; he's up-and-coming. He recently crossed the computer threshhold, and he has the potential to come very far, fast. I can't imagine that he or my mom don't know my username by now, but then, do they even know what a username is? Daddy knows about blogs, but his favorite (gun-toting, gay marriage opposing) bloggers use real names ( ... )

boliver February 4 2005, 15:06:41 UTC

Come to think of it, maybe I shouldn't share my LJ with Ron, either. He's so emotionally delicate, and I have so many things to vent about. I hate that guy.

Heh.

astrablue February 4 2005, 03:29:32 UTC

Well, you wrote above that you decided not to share it with your mom, so that decision was taken care of. I've got to admit, I think it's a wise choice.

None of my family and most of my non-fandom friends don't know about my LJ, and I like it that way. I can get all fandom-geeky or whatever and not have to worry about them... misapprehending anything. My next-youngest sister does know about my LJ, by accident, since I caught her on her own LJ and it slipped out before I really thought about it. I let her stay on my friends list for awhile before I realized that it was too much of a pain in the ass having to think about how she would perceive things that I wrote about (especially posts about heated arguments between us; she probably wouldn't have liked those). So, I quietly defriended her and have had my LJ pretty much friends-locked since then. Every now and then, if it's important enough to me, I make a post public, but my posts are default-set for locked; I have to go back and make them public if I want. I like it this way, as I ( ... )