You have to know your magic as it is now, not how you wish it will be ( Read more... )

There's a type of habitual numbness that can develop when you learn that feeling is dangerous. There's also a state of baseline calm, where life is going along as life goes along but nothing exceptionally dramatic is happening - it's all good, as it were - no triumphs, no tragedies, just Thursday. There's the deliberate sort of meditative zoning ( Read more... )

Your childrens' expectations of life are not shaped by what your own experience of childhood was like. Instead, they form their expectations based on their own experiences and that of their peers, as well as what they see in the media. This means that they can take for granted things that would have been beyond your wildest imaginings when you were ( Read more... )

Where is the line between bitter and realistic? Last night I sat in a meeting and was told how important it was for everyone to work together to support the town & foster a sense of community. After ten plus years and multiple members of the town leadership body telling me I'm going to hell and people like me shouldn't exist, I find the amount of ( Read more... )

I put on a shirt yesterday and discovered it has become a dress. Not a marginal dress, the butt-cheek brushing type the girls occassionally try to convince me isn't too short - an actual dress that came to mid-thigh. I've been trying to do healthier things for myself and knew a few pounds had come off - jeans that used to be snug now don't actually ( Read more... )

My bones are a barometer for deceit; they ache when I'm lying to myself. I feel it in my shoulders, my neck, my hips, my spine; my fingers are fire. I've learned by now there's only one cure. I have to hunt down what's not true, what's not right, what's useful instead of authentic, and get that sorted. Every I'm fine, every it's okay, lately every ( Read more... )

It might be one of those days. I'm going to be writing a few pieces for the Mercury transit; here is the first one ( Read more... )

Not everything is a gender based slight designed to reinforce the patriarchy. Was with a woman, we were looking at some horses - animals with which she is not overly familiar - and the owner of said horses cautioned us against going near one particular stallion if it was 'our time' because 'that brings out the worst in him'. Which is a thing that ( Read more... )

No matter what, there's a tendency for people to self-segregate into groups that don't communicate with each other. At work, we call this siloing - marketing doesn't talk to customer service, in store people don't know what's happening online; it's a mess that inhibits sales and slows brand growth. I see it elsewhere too; in academic disciplines, ( Read more... )

We are rather bad at baby proofing. I am watching a friend's little one today while she goes to a funeral; he is almost 3. After the girls 'got things ready' I still had to pick up the stovewood  hatchet, a surge protector full of plugs, and assorted sharp pointy things. Clearly we are not around wee ones enough...although according to his Mom, all ( Read more... )