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[crimsonplum]

It never happens when I'm expecting it to. It's always insidious, a shock, out of the clear blue nowhere. I think that's because I spend so much time doing everything I can to guard against it, so my instincts usually tell me when I'm not safe enough to let my guard down

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[whipchick]

I really like the way you resolve this piece - it ends with forward motion rather than veering to bitterness, and that makes it so much more powerful. And you sound so strong and powerful throughout.

[roina_arwen]

I'm sorry you had such a rough past - nobody should have to go through all that - but you seem to be a remarkably strong woman because of it.

I too am overweight, so I do fully understand the looks and commentary from people who "mean well."

[onda_bianca]

This line was particularly impactful:

"You wanted to make me feel small and huge all at once."

Glad you didn't let her bring you down...it is such a shame that adults act that way. Far worse than children.

[solstice_singer]

I love how empowering this was to read. I'm anorexic, and people are always commenting on my weight. I'm always told how skinny I am, that I look like a corpse, and a whole bunch of other crap. People can't get past the appearance. They don't care about the person inside.

Thank you for writing such an emotionally charged piece.

[i_17bingo]

And this assumes that you don't take care of yourself anyway. And even if you don't, what freaking business is it of theirs anyway?

Grr.