Comments | dont_fall_4_me: The Cost of Protecting Yourself Emotionally

dont_fall_4_me

The Cost of Protecting Yourself Emotionally

Jul 20, 2005 14:26

In order to protect yourself emotionally, you must strike first. From the beginning you must establish control over the end of every kiss, every utterance of affection, and every phone call. No mountain is too small to plant your flag into. No battle too miniscule to be recorded as a victory.

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angelbum July 20 2005, 21:47:38 UTC

That actually had me in tears. I don't know how many times I've felt like that because I'm so sick of getting hurt. But after the pain starts to go away the hopeless romantic in me is back in the game, looking to find "the one" but expecting to only be hurt again.

I have a friend who's liked me since I've known him. He only does in phases though. We'll start hanging out when I'm single and then as soon as I start dating again he tells me HE wants to be the one I'm dating. He never tells me this until I'm unavailable and then I feel so bad because *I* hurt him that I feel like I can't even speak to him unless I'm single. Which..is lame. But I don't like to hurt anyone.

dont_fall_4_me July 20 2005, 21:50:40 UTC

sorry I made you cry, dear. =/

I wasn't exactly grinning when I wrote it.

The guy I was talking about doesn't want to date anyone... some kind of religious quest. *shrugs*. I'll mend I'm sure.

angelbum July 20 2005, 21:56:31 UTC

Aw, it wasn't YOU that made me cry. It's just I knew how you must've felt when you wrote it.

dontcallme_ash July 20 2005, 23:21:38 UTC

you probably dont want to hear this, but most (if not all) of your guy friends are probably in love with you

angelbum July 20 2005, 23:27:48 UTC

I don't get that really. I mean, I've had guy friends I've had crushes on. But I don't get why guy friends fall for you..and then don't say anything about it until you don't have any feelings for them other than friendship.

You seem like a smart guy. Why do guys do that?

dontcallme_ash July 20 2005, 23:48:39 UTC

if a guy falls in love with you, he's in love with you. it depends on the guy as to what he's willing to settle for. if he doesn't think he has a shot, he'll take the friendship just to maintain some kind of contact. "nice", "sweet", and "emotional" guys tend to do this quite often. they'll never make their move because they know that rejection means they can never speak to you again. it'd be too painful. so, they will pine away, waiting for the day when you finally "come to your senses", or deliver "i've loved you for so long i can't be friends with you any more" ultimatums when they can pine no longer.

....or maybe that's just me

angelbum July 20 2005, 23:54:18 UTC

Nah, that probably sounds right. My friend Justin (the aforementioned guy) isn't emotional or anything though. I've known him for 5 years maybe. And he's very..emotionless..it's freaky. Doesn't help he believes he's a vampire...So maybe he just likes making me feel bad that I don't have feelings for him? Because why else would he wait until I'm with someone else..and it's happened more than once.

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