I went to a munch in Singapore the other night. I had a real good time and it went remarkably late. Like the rest of Singapore there was a whole mix of ethnic groups - westerners, chinese, etc.. The group was younger than most munchs I've been to, largely mid 20s and 30s. I was welcomed, people had both interesting stories and were interested ( Read more... )

There's been a raging debate in one community and one journal about babalon_it. She even dealt with contributing. I don't recommend you waste your time reading it ( Read more... )

Punishment is not a common event in our relationship. As we've said in the past, elf is only punished when I'm displeased by something she's done *and* I would have had her do something different if I'd had the chance to tell her. This means there are no punishments for impossible circumstances. There is no punishment for taking the choice I'd ( Read more... )

cherishedelf is away for a few days and I hate it already. It's not that I can't do everything - I'll stay fed, the house won't collapse, I'll have clean clothes, blah blah balh - it's just that I don't want to do anything. The first day is always the worst, but I lose a lot of motivation when she's not around. And with my schedule, lack of motivation is ( Read more... )

cherishedelf was just grumping about having lost something and frowning at me. I decided to be evil - I looked up at her face and smiled that big, happy "I love looking at you" smile. Her lips curved slightly no longer frowning. But that wasn't enough for me. I ran my hand softly across her stomach for two seconds, still grinning widely at her. And that ( Read more... )

Recently cherishedelf asked me some intriguing questions:

• Why do you want to control me?
• Why do you think you deserve to?
• Why do you think are you able to?
• How do we both benefit from it?
• What of value do I get from you in return for giving you my submission?

From a conversation with teine:

"I haven't solved the engineering of a spring loaded metaphorical d/s leash"

In a recent post I mentioned that elf is required to let me start first at meals. The main conclusion from this work is -- I'm a pigI've had a little trouble determining if she obeys or not. I tend to find us half way through the meal (or finishing) and wondering who took the first bite. 95% of the time elf kindly informs me that I did. This ( Read more... )

elf say this somewhere "The true Dominant feels that things beyond his control shouldn't have been beyond his control - and that if people would have listened to him the economy would be in better shape ( Read more... )

Some months ago cherishedelf and I did self-manual posts. We've from time to time discussed the rights and priveleges I want to take or she wants to give - we even wrote down a few of them current ones. Back all those months ago, I was thinking what I'd do if someone gave up everything, every right and privelege, the entire total control thing. I realized ( Read more... )