Comments | elmnopo: what to do? what to do?

elmnopo

what to do? what to do?

Mar 26, 2009 22:13

so my aunt took a road trip to houston to meet the guru. the long and the short of it, he promised that he could cure her without surgery. this of course feeds into her baseline desire of not wanting surgery in general ( Read more... )

mom, letters from a slightly older doctor, autonomy

Comments 9

fasterpussycat March 27 2009, 03:51:46 UTC

You can't guilt her into it? It works for us Catholics.

Guilt elmnopo March 28 2009, 04:38:43 UTC

I've been through enough Catholic schooling to know how it works. She seems impervious to that sort of munition. Gotta find a different angle...

dakotaluna March 27 2009, 06:01:42 UTC

*sigh*

This guru needs a smackdown.

elmnopo March 28 2009, 04:39:46 UTC

Yeah, he's got 34 years of "experience". Looks like it's gonna be a hard one to win...

I"ll take care of the guru mssaskia March 27 2009, 07:49:02 UTC

You get the van and the surgical equipment ready

Srsly. Was she this nihilistic this time last year?

I knew I could always count on you! elmnopo March 28 2009, 04:40:47 UTC

That's the thing. This time last year, we were arguing about futility in medicine and when "enough" was enough. Curious.

lindapendant March 29 2009, 11:00:19 UTC

I'd have her sign a waiver stating among other things, that you explained the seriousness of the situation to her, that she understood what she was up against, that you tried to the best of your ability to have her treated with the medical practices commonly used in 2009 to fight cancer, that she declined your learned opinion and wishes, but that she preferred to die, and that she absolves you of any and all responsibility and feelings of guilt relating to her premature demise.

Or words to that effect.

gwen666 March 30 2009, 01:24:08 UTC

Lets go lateral thinking : Call the sharman and invite him to the hospital to discuss the case. Show him the test results, x-rays, etc and ask his opinions. Act like you are taking him seriously and discuss a "sunset date" after which surgery is too late and he will have to accept full responsibility for the patient.
I bet the next day he will convince the patient he can't handle the case or ringing you to hand over the patient.