personal internet etiquette

[gxdm]

In my personal internet etiquette world, posting personal emails publicly (and LJ is public, friends locked or not) is not a good thing.

It doesn't matter what the emails are about, if the email is directly to you, publicizing it is not good.

I hate it when it happens to me, and I cannot ever condone it.

Comments

[tainted_paladin]

Could that also be personal conversations, text messages, and other media sources?

And when is it polite or possibly appropriate to bring said material into the open? Say if you were trying to just rant, but being as vague as possible, BUT someone 'brings down the thunder' as it were and then you decide to throw it right back in their face? (Does that make any sense?)

I'm not trying to be confrontational, I'm trying to see "where the line is".

[gxdm]

For me, personal conversations are a little different, because you can never exactly quote them, but I still ask permission.

Text messages, I ask permission.

Posts to mailing lists are fair game.

For me, when someone puts their words into the public domain, they are public.

But when they write things privately, they are private, unless you have permission.

Say if you were trying to just rant, but being as vague as possible, BUT someone 'brings down the thunder' as it were and then you decide to throw it right back in their face?

You lost me there.

For me its simple though, if it was meant to be private, keep it private. If it is meant to be public to a select group of people, keep it private.

If the writer/speaker put it in the public domain, that's different.

[tainted_paladin]

Alright, let me try and explain myself a little better.

I rant about Topic A. I keep Topic A as vague as possible to protect the privacy of Topic A and those involved with Topic A.

Someone responds in my LJ or whatever other medium we want to use here. They bring up Topic B. They try to relate Topic A to Topic B. Topic A has nothing to do with them, but Topic B does. In Topic B they are NOT as vague or discreet. They pretty much 'call you out' whether they realize it or not. Since they decided to do that, I respond to them in kind in regards to Topic B and post everything I have on it (personal and/or public).

Is that acceptable?

[gxdm]

That depends.

For me it all depends on authorship and permissions. If you have permission to make information public, great. If not, then no. I don't care if someone is "calling you out" on your LJ or other medium or not.

Shit, that sort of nonsense happens to me all the time...but if something is private, its private.

[liamstliam]

I agree with you.

I think it's OK to vent generally, but not to post something someone sent you in private.

I know people disagree.

[rustmon]

*HUG*

[anncetera]

Agreed. There's a reason why, if I'm replying to someone's public post with a private email, I include "Private to (name)" in the subject line.

I consider everything I post on LiveJournal to be public.