The Past

[hinna_koto]

Recently I had a long conversation with a friend about the past, namely family history and sibling relationships. And it got me to thinking... what actually went down? I would say on the one hand, I was spoiled, but on the other hand I went through a unique level of hardship because of eczema, and a mother completely unsuited to motherhood. But

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[izallgewd]

I've actually been thinking about our friendliness and I think part of it is because we know people are noticing us because of our eczema and we were twins. so we knew we were gonna be noticed anyway so we acted proactively to change their attention into positive attention by being friendly and funny and also as a matter of pride like: dont pity us! and I think the first 5 years of our life were crucial because we were cute little twin babies and mother was very social and introduced us to all her friends. So I feel that foundation really helped us I think mother's sociability saved us but so did father's logic. and we were fortunate that our parents are intelligent and mostly try their best. linh was a godsend to us the first outside of our own relationship who loved us unconditionally and truly did not care about our skin soo overall I think we are more fortunate than not! ♥️

agreed

[hinna_koto]

I agree, I think the odds would up being heavily in our favor! Books and friends were the game changers and i definitely credit mother with equipping us with enough social skills to achieve that ^^ in the main i think we had a really happy
childhood/teenager hood!!

I had a similar reflection of the past

[anonymous]

when i was around your age.

it took a lot of realizations and working at empathy to finally see things from my parents' perspectives and understand how their actions or mindsets might've made sense.

in the end, it's all we can do as human beings, to try to put ourselves in one another's shoes. sometimes it's not just the things we see on the surface, the actions and the words. it's the inside and how the shitty environment gave birth to something negative that maybe wouldn't have been there otherwise.

this entry is good.

Re: I had a similar reflection of the past

[hinna_koto]

thank you, i’m gratified that you still check this place periodically ^_^ and yeah i enjoy reflecting bc it tends to reveal a lot of things that i noticed but didn’t actually realize.. and seeing things from the POV of parents that had frankly done so much damage (more in your case than mine) is a difficult but rewarding endeavor. i intend to continue this look into the past soon, i just need to untangle from the present a little bit.