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[iknowitsasong]

In talking with my Mom and Aunt this weekend it came to light that my invitation to go to Hawaii with them was conditional. I would have to lose weight in order to be allowed to go and visit while they are in Maui

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[mairegirl]

http://www.latimes.com/features/health/la-he-fat-health12-2009oct12,0,1663814.story

It is good to remember that weight and health are only loosely related.

[newperspectives]

"to be allowed to go and visit"?? Please.
I don't know when this trip is or what they expect from you in the meantime, but you're a with-it grown-up lady who doesn't deserve to be bribed/manipulated like some people try to do with schoolchildren. Argh!

So, I'd ask yourself this: if you do lose "enough" weight to be "allowed" to go, would you be able to take that as a victory and celebrate it and have fun, or would it feel uncomfortable and wrong? If you don't think you could enjoy it, I'd say to pick a more you-centered vacation.

Anyway. I think you're pretty keen, and I look forward to seeing you again at some point, hopefully before too long!
*hugs*

[belmikey]

I'd be giving serious thought to never talking to them again, in your shoes.

[iknowitsasong]

Believe me I have thought of it. And weighed the consequences of that decision.

I made up my mind several years ago that it was more important to me to build good memories with my parents rather than cut them out of my life. I know their intentions are heartfelt so I managed to deal with things and learn to let go.

It just seems that since the divorce they have gone off the deep end - and part of that is due to some conversations they had with my ex.

I am attempting to re-achieve the zen I had about these comments but it is difficult some days. *sigh*

[kolibri]

*jawdrop*

*hug*

[norfacoflandra]

And another page in the usual behaviour..... *sigh* I'd say, find a vacation with people who don't stress you that way. Abscence works both ways on this one....

[aneyah]

ooo... yeah... you could come visit me, instead!!