This post is meant for my new brolita-in-arms, grim_marmazet. I'm posting it on my livejournal because replies can only be so long ( and I certainly have a lot to say. )
I thought I was pretty clear in my post. You can decide whom you are and you can fight any aspect of yourself that you don't like. If you're going to do this, do it because you want it, not because you feel you have no other alternative. And you BETTER have the will to believe in yourself because everyone will constantly test your resolve! I cannot stress that point enough
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a) yes, there are a lot of women that are definitely not down with their guy wearing a skirt. some are!
b) you could take up clothesmaking, and start generating some cash that way, once you got skilled at it
c) I'm not prepared to argue this in depth, but there seems to be very little evidence in the bible that has anything to say about crossdressing, unless we want to start following the rest of Leviticus also
d) you certainly don't just stumble into being gay. people have an unlimited capacity to deceive themselves about things, but if you're not gay, then you're not.
in conclusion, you are a fabulous friend, and I wish I talked with you more so I could get to know you better.
sexual preference is completely not comparable to where you buy groceries...
like I said, people can lie to themselves almost forever, but eventually people have to admit that they really aren't what they've pretended to be.
hooking up with some guy because you were lonely wouldn't make you gay, just like going swimming doesn't make you a fish. doing the same things doesn't make you the same.
I take homosexuality for the barebone definition of showing romantic interest in someone of your own gender. I don't add stipulations to it like when it should start because the very notion seems preposterous. That's like calling the parts of a car a Porsche before they are assembled. Those same parts could just as easily be used on other cars.
And to go with what I stated in my post, no only can people be whatever they want, they can also become whatever is thrust upon them, should they choose to accept it. Giving in to desire or just dire situations can cause it too.
Yes, being lonely doesn't make you gay but it can open you up to the possibility if the only people that seem interested in you are of the same sex.
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small thoughts, if I may:
a) yes, there are a lot of women that are definitely not down with their guy wearing a skirt. some are!
b) you could take up clothesmaking, and start generating some cash that way, once you got skilled at it
c) I'm not prepared to argue this in depth, but there seems to be very little evidence in the bible that has anything to say about crossdressing, unless we want to start following the rest of Leviticus also
d) you certainly don't just stumble into being gay. people have an unlimited capacity to deceive themselves about things, but if you're not gay, then you're not.
in conclusion, you are a fabulous friend, and I wish I talked with you more so I could get to know you better.
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sexual preference is completely not comparable to where you buy groceries...
like I said, people can lie to themselves almost forever, but eventually people have to admit that they really aren't what they've pretended to be.
hooking up with some guy because you were lonely wouldn't make you gay, just like going swimming doesn't make you a fish. doing the same things doesn't make you the same.
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And to go with what I stated in my post, no only can people be whatever they want, they can also become whatever is thrust upon them, should they choose to accept it. Giving in to desire or just dire situations can cause it too.
Yes, being lonely doesn't make you gay but it can open you up to the possibility if the only people that seem interested in you are of the same sex.
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