Work and Wedding

[jacobine]

Whee. I have my own office at work. Finally! After five and a half years. I went up today to make sure I had all my stuff, but I wasn't very productive with unpacking. Mostly I shuffled things around. I think this is because the office is going to make me insane. The walls are crooked

Comments

[starcat_jewel]

Traditional choices for the bride's attendants: Her sisters or cousins. His sisters or cousins. Her closest friends, either from school or from her current life situation. If he has sisters, find out whether his family puts a lot of importance on your asking them! My best friend in Nashville had to ask her fiancé's sister to be her maid of honor even though they didn't get along at all, because otherwise there would have been endless family drama.

There's supposed to be some kind of a formula for the number of attendants you have based on the number of guests you're asking, but I don't know what it is. You can probably find it in any basic etiquette book, if you care -- I didn't, and I don't think most people do these days. Also, some women are now asking close male friends to be their attendants (and vice versa); it's non-traditional, but not terribly controversial any more except with extreme conservatives

[jacobine]

Hee. Thanks for the offer! I have a couple of ideas, I jsut need to decide. Fortunately, Randy's family is very low key. No expectations about anything. There are very few female cousins at all (like, all of three) and I'm not close to any of them, really.

I think I'm aiming to just have two. I don't want a huge bridal party, and Randy at least wants some people, so two is the compromise. I might ask his sister.

[lolleeroberts]

It seems that you could do enough teatime foods to satisfy a lunch crowd, but I'm a huge afternoon tea fan. Sandwiches, quiches, pastries, soups, all those sorts of things have been served at teas I had in London. It just depends on the type of tea you have.

Okay. Now I'm craving hot tea and pastry.

[ladypixel]

I'd offer to do the whole bridesmaid (or, rather, bridesmatron) thing, except that you're a wee bit distant from me. That, and I just got asked to be someone's matron of honor yesterday when she re-does her wedding for her husband's family -- which means that I'll probably be spending a small fortune on a dress I'll wear once and shoes to match. ;)

However - I'll second the female-relatives option, as well as assorted and sundry friends. You don't have to do too many - the major point is a maid of honor (or matron of honor if it's a married person), a best man, and perhaps at least one other bridesmaid/groom. You can do more or less as desired beyond those two major ones, however.

[nicos11]

ME!!!!
I will be moving back to Austin,TX on May 6th. Hey, I knew through most of our childhood.
I will be pregnant, but fun!!!
I wanna go!!!

[jacobine]

You've been on the short-list of candidates :) I am just so paranoid about feeling like I'm asking too much of people! But I would love love love to have you. (And you'd be invited regardless.)

Wedding's not until March 10 next year, so you'd have baby fun by that point.

[susiejazz]

a crooked office with no windows... ugh, it took me 11 years to GET windows and I amd NOT giving them back, no way, no how!

a tea sounds great!