Aaaannnd, yeah

[k_sav]

the lump hasnt gotten smaller. Its only gotten worse in fact. I've never been more scared. Everyone is telling me its nothing, and that I shouldnt be scared. "Dont think about it" they say. Yeah, easy for you, you arent the one who has to deal with it. It makes me cry every time I think or even talk about it. I know I will find out what the deal is

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[angrypanda]

I'm with you in a big way feeling that way. I'm so sorry to hear that the lump has gotten worse. I can only begin to imagine how scared you feel. I will be praying for you and hoping beyond hope that it's nothing. But I'll tell you now, not thinking about it is some of the worst advice I've ever heard. While I don't think you should sit and worry about it, I do think you should be proactive and take what steps you can.

Worry never did a thing for anyone, but being proactive can make a HUGE difference. Also, the kinds of friends you are describing are known as "Job's friends". They give crappy advice without ever having walked there thinking they are wise. I haven't walked where you've walked, but I've endured a lifetime of pain and I can tell you that no matter what I've endured, God has always been there for me...even when I've been giving him the finger.

Like, I said, I'll be praying. I ache for you and I'm sorry you're going through this.

[k_sav]

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. I guess I just thought people would have given shown me more sympathy and concern for my worries. Or even asked how I am or let me even talk about. I guess that's just how people are sometimes. I go in tomorrow so I will know for sure after that what the deal is. I've been looking up the odds for someone my age and gotten info on what it might be and what to expect. I'm sure its nothing but I want to prepare myself (not worry) that it might be something, and I wish people understood that. Thanks again for the support, it means a lot.

[smfkrstolmyname]

Oh, Darlin' I am so sorry! Yeah, I think people get uncomfortable because they don't know what to say in situations like that. I love and am always here for you, and like I said before, I know EXACTLY what you are going through, so call me any time if you want to talk about it. If it makes you feel any better at all the doctor told me when they are really super fast growing like that it usually does mean that they are benign. I know how scary it still is, though, even knowing that. Like angrypanda said, don't ignore it, but do try to trust in the fact that no matter what happens God is on your side and it will be okay. I know it's tough not to worry, but just do what you can to relax and take care of yourself, because stress is hard on your body, and can worsen anything that might be going on there. Let me know if there's anything at all I can do for you, okay? Hang in there. Also, I have all kinds of info on the holistic approach to breast health if you are ever interested.

[k_sav]

Thank you doll. I really appreciate you being so willing to help in any way you can, and it always helps knowing someone else went through the same thing. I wouldn't say I'm stressed, more anxious to know, but I only have to wait another day, and that eases my mind a bit. I know God has and always will have a plan for me, and He has never given me more than I can bear, so I can trust that things will work out as they are suppose to. And I'm sure you are right that people don't know what to say, but being dismissive rather than asking if I want to talk is kinda hurtful. I even had some people say "let's talk about something happy" when I was expressing my concerns. I guess I'm just not that way, and I know how to read people better than most to know when they need to talk, I just wish people could see that as well. I will keep everyone updated as of the status after tomorrow. Love you. Let's get together soon.

[smfkrstolmyname]

Oh, I know exactly what you mean, and there's no excuse for it as far as I'm concerned. I got plenty of similar reactions when I lost my baby. Some people just suck...and I have absolutely nothing to say in their defense! Definitely get together soon!