Comments | kalimyre: ...dude, when did that happen?

kalimyre

...dude, when did that happen?

Oct 28, 2006 17:14

So last week, I had a wedding anniversary. Seven years we've been married, which sort of startles me, because it doesn't seem that long. And yeah, he's not perfect and clearly I am not either, but we're doing pretty good. My friend who said I got married too young (okay, I was 19, which I guess means she had a point) is divorced now. My other ( Read more... )

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elmyraemilie October 28 2006, 23:34:24 UTC

Congratulations on sheer tenacity. That's what it takes. Romance is a nice starter, but what makes the buggy go is holding on to the idea that the other person is worthy of respect.

You go!

kalimyre October 29 2006, 03:58:53 UTC

Ah, thank you. And you know, I do think a certain amount of being willing to stick it out even when it's not fun helps. There are times when he drives me nuts, but other times when he surprises me with how good he can be to me and the kids. As husbands go, I think I may have lucked out.

the right reason mushmong October 29 2006, 00:06:53 UTC

Marrying the right person for the right reason greatly improves the odds I'm sure. I suppose 7 years is some sort of milestone, but I don't think it ever really gets easy. It just gets so comfortable that taking a different path just seems like too much work. Congratulations! I wish you many more years of wedded bliss.

Re: the right reason kalimyre October 29 2006, 04:01:29 UTC

Whereas the right person for the wrong reason can come back to bite you down the line, of course. And heh, I do agree that there is a certain amount of laziness involved; breaking up now would be so much work. *g*

Also, backatcha with the wishing of wedded bliss. Third time's the charm, hmm?

(Plus, what are you doing for the year end holidays? We're probably going to be in your area and will come up and see you if you have a place for us to stay.)

Re: the right reason mushmong October 29 2006, 13:36:53 UTC

Well lets consider the options:
Right person/wrong reason, been there done that.
Wrong person/right reason, strike two.
That only leaves wrong person/wrong reason and
right person/right reason.

Considering that although I am not as smart as you, hopefully I am still smart enough make the right choice between the remaining options. Unfortunately this line of reasoning doesn't take her choice into consideration. With those odds, it's a wonder any marriages succeed at all. Divine intervention?

boy_ish October 29 2006, 01:37:50 UTC

I *think* I heard statistics say that "most" people are likely to get divorced by 7 years, that it's how long the "average" marriage lasts. Or something like that.

But I am one who believes most things can be worked out (if both parties aren't too dumb/stubborn), and people get divorced way too easily these days.

kalimyre October 29 2006, 04:04:06 UTC

Well, in my husband's family 5-7 years is about it, for the first marriage, anyway. His brother and sister both got divorced within that time, and his first marriage ended around 6 years, I think. So maybe it is a magic number. Then again, my parents got divorced after 18 years, so you never know.

I do think people give up too easily. I have far more reasons to stay than I have to leave, the big ones being our two kids. He's far too good a father to ever take that away from them.

lt_kitty October 29 2006, 02:27:25 UTC

Congrats! **thumbsup**

kalimyre October 29 2006, 04:04:33 UTC

Thanks! *highfives*

lt_kitty October 29 2006, 04:17:19 UTC

*highfives back* Lots of luck on many more. :)

You know, I meant to use my "hugs" icon. I must have clicked "horse" instead.

Dammit.

kalimyre October 29 2006, 04:22:57 UTC

See, you're getting your comment notifications. I am totally not. *glares at LJ* I know I have it set to on in my account settings. It's just being mulish on me.

crownglass39 October 29 2006, 03:01:19 UTC

Congrats! I think seven years without killing each other is definately a milestone.
(I'm also married seven years and the lack of bloodshed on our part definately took willpower.)

kalimyre October 29 2006, 04:05:56 UTC

Well, he was gone in Afghanistan for a year, so maybe that one doesn't count. Then again, during that time he apparently lost his mind and blew $2400 in a strip club in Germany and I didn't kill him, so maybe that year counts double. ^_^

crownglass39 October 29 2006, 04:34:52 UTC

$2400!!!! Holy Crap!
Yeah, you get extra credit for that.
I have no problems with strip clubs, but that seems a little excessive.