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lgoin

so!

Jan 30, 2010 18:48

so last night i decided to stop by and see Eric for some snuggles. lately there's obviously been some slight tension because i've been spending a lot of time with friends from school and also doing school work. we lay in bed to cuddle and he gives it to me straight: there's a divide between us, and i'm making plans for the future without him ( ( Read more... )

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jess_kan January 31 2010, 20:17:41 UTC

I am in no way stating that you and eric are me and louie, nor that what happened to us is going to happen to you. Just a prelude ( ... )

lgoin January 31 2010, 22:10:48 UTC

:) thank you, you're amazing

impressxme February 1 2010, 07:13:12 UTC

Wow. I had a nice long comment written, but my internet keeps going in & out because my router is malfunctioning, so here is a less eloquent version. After 5 years, you'd think that Eric may try harder to stay with you, and moving away is not that big of a deal as long as the characteristics of whatever city you end up going to for grad school is within his standards. Have you tried asking him maybe where he'd consider moving to & you can focus your grad school search within those cities? There are seriously SOOOO many schools in the U.S. to choose from, so if he's willing to move with you, than you should also meet him half way. Also, I've noticed that the higher the education you end up attaining or reaching for, the more people you'll end up alienating because they're intimidated, and mostly because you don't have time for bullshit. Do you think he feels strange because you guys are moving in such different directions? If that's the case, he needs to get over his pride that his girlfriend/wife/whatever, may end up as more ( ... )

impressxme February 1 2010, 07:17:24 UTC

P.S. I know that you were against getting married for awhile (I don't know where you stand on that currently), but do you think that maybe talking it down may have propelled him away from being "romantic" & trying to bring your relationship to the next step so he thought you were content with being stagnant? Just a thought.

lgoin February 1 2010, 22:50:23 UTC

you were always good at the whole insight thing. you are right- he does feel strange that we are moving in different directions. i've tried opening up the line of conversation for planning out whether he would come with me or not, however he always just responded with "i don't want to talk about it." about the marriage thing though... i was once really not into the idea, but Eric really changed it for me. we've talked about it and were okay with it. he KNOWS that he changed the idea of marriage for me and that i was looking forward to it. that was the assumed outcome, but he just doesn't feel like taking the initiative to work for our relationship i guess? in anycase, thanks for the birthday wishes and the wisdom :)

happy birthday dollface. =] *belated* mrslaceytoyou February 6 2010, 03:52:15 UTC

i've had the pleasure of knowing both sides, and while what had to be done was done, i think it's bullshit that he did it on your birthday and i'll give'em hell for it, don't you worry. PS HAPPY BIRTHDAY...and cheers to new beginnings. make sure to take some time for yourself! =]

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