body/pregnancy issues

[limbomonkey]

I know that my privilege is going to show when writing this, so I don't think I'm looking for sympathy. I just need to get some crap that's been bothering me off my chest.

Comments

[inglevine]

That sounds like a huge amount to deal with, the physical discomfort and helplessness on top of the pressure from your mom. Ugh, pregnancy can be hard. I relate to what you're going through.

Just remember that it will be over soon and you'll feel loads better. That's what got me through my last pregnancy.

[limbomonkey]

Thanks. I'm counting down the days until my due date (49) and am thankful that, because of my gestational diabetes, they'll induce me so I won't go past my due date so there is a definite end time!

[second_banana]

Oof! That sound like a lot. I'm sorry things are so stressful for you right now. Pregnancy is weird for knowing what you look like. It's such a strange and uncomfortable time.

And I feel you on the hip pain! I'm only 13 weeks along, but my hips are already starting to kill me. I'm limping if I have to walk too long or stay in one position too long. Staying zen about that shit it *hard*.

I'm really sorry your mom is pushing the whole pretty=thin thing. Grrrrrrrrrr. I am indignant on your behalf.

[limbomonkey]

I want to say "congratulations" because I feel like I should, but you just told me you're in pain and that you'll probably be in pain for the next 6 months. I don't want to congratulate you on that... But I'm happy for you because I think being a mom is awesome. Good luck in the rest of your pregnancy! I hope it goes well.

I've found that placing a cat on my hip when laying on my side is really helpful. I feel like it pushes me back together. Sometimes the cat agrees to do this.

[second_banana]

Hahaha! I'm *thrilled* to be pregnant and doing this whole parent thing, so congratulations are welcome.

Man, my cat is only interested in laying on my bladder and walking across my nipples! Hm... how to redirect a cat...

[limbomonkey]

Then congratulations!!

My cat too! I redirect her just by lying on my side. If I'm on my back, she'll jump on my nipples. But if I'm on my side, she'll go for the hip. When I was less pregnant she would lay on my stomach and purr and baby would kick so she would purr more and baby would kick more. It was cute.

[redqueenmeg]

You can always come here for sympathy. I'll give it to you in spades. I hated being pregnant. And I feel like my parents feel the same way about me regarding weight.

It all sucks, and I'm sorry. You have a lot to deal with. I hope things improve a whole lot after you give birth. In the meantime, you are being given an endurance test, and I know you can get through it.

[limbomonkey]

Thanks. Today at a birthday party for a kid in my first kid's class, I broke down crying about it. And I'm wondering, how do you compliment someone on weight loss while still being fat positive? I think it can be done. I mean, if someone says "your hair looks nice today," that doesn't mean that my hair looked like crap yesterday. I think it's just you need to say it and then move on. Don't obsess on it, like my mom's doing. How did you handle your parents attitude?

[redqueenmeg]

Probably not well. I ignore it. And right now since I'm at a relatively (for me) lower weight, I get nice comments from them. When I weigh more, they just don't say anything at all about my appearance.

[limbomonkey]

I think I'm lucky at least that the comments from my dad are about being healthy. He hasn't really commented at all about the weight loss (except when prompted by my mom, making us both feel uncomfortable), but he did ask me how I feel and if I feel differently/better having lost the weight I did over the summer (I didn't). I'm worried about his health because he pretty much eats like crap and had high cholesterol and doesn't get a lot of exercise. His brother has type 2 diabetes. So I'm hoping that I can set a good example for him. That's really something that helped me get through the anger at the diagnosis of gestational diabetes, that hopefully I can be a warning signal for him (and me).