from me to you. i know the feeling. i have been there (not girls beating me up but i know what it's like to be an outsider) that would be the story of my life. never apart of one group...kinda friends with everybody. the girl that gets forgotten when lots of others are around. lisa. there is nothing wrong with you. you are the way you are for a reason and trying to fit in will only make things worse. trust me. been there...done that. my whole family has done that. none of us have people flocking around. but honestly. you are an amazing girl and if some people can't see that then they're stupid. i know i'm not so good at socializing myself. but. when my german arrives (5 days 5 days!) you will help me entertain her (while thus entertaining yourself). which will probably not consist of more than driving around in my car but i have found that to be quite fun. i mean you find places you never knew exsisted. it's almost as good as finding a whole nation nobodys ever heard of. anyways i'm babbling. just remember you are amazing and people
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I know how you feel, both the "outside" ring kinda deal and the being made fun of, I wasn't the one being pysically beat up, that was reserved for my brother, but I did get alot of the nasty names and junk that went with our family, some nice kids trashed my first set of scriptures beyond repair, and I usually got in trouble with people for telling the truth about it afterwards...Anyways, the best thing for me as far as that outsider thing goes is to listen to the people around me and not try to fit in, I am not made to fit in a social mold very well and when I try to fit in I end up fitting nowhere, not even with myself, I know how the friend thing feels to, as close as some friends can seem sometimes, there is no one who I can completly trust to tell some things to
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hi lisa. middle school sucks. i think everyone had a bad time of it (maybe not to that extent), and its really hard to get over. youre not the person they said you were, you just have to remember that. also, youre stronger than them, because while theyre still cutting people down, youre building them up.
if the friends you have now arent working, find new ones. its ackward and difficult, but if youre really that unhappy, go out on a limb and find some new people. but dont change for anyone, if youre happy with who you are.
like everyone, i've been that person that has a lot of friends but no best friends. you have friends that you always want to hang out with, but never really invite you around. what you have to look at is that you do the same thing. you probably have friends that you would pass up for a chance to hang out with the ones you like more. friends that may be trying to hang out but you're busy trying to get in with the other ones. well that was my experience anyway. they probably feel the same way you do, and you should turn to them. it's hard to explain.
in middle school i was "best friends" with chase, except he'd consider his best friend to be josh. so i was never really there if josh was. eventually i got tired of wanting to be around them when they were always trying to be around other people. so i turned back to people that had always been nice to me but i'd never really thought of as friends, never really given a chance.
that didn't come out quite as i'd planned, but it was worth a shot.
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if the friends you have now arent working, find new ones. its ackward and difficult, but if youre really that unhappy, go out on a limb and find some new people. but dont change for anyone, if youre happy with who you are.
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like everyone, i've been that person that has a lot of friends but no best friends. you have friends that you always want to hang out with, but never really invite you around. what you have to look at is that you do the same thing. you probably have friends that you would pass up for a chance to hang out with the ones you like more. friends that may be trying to hang out but you're busy trying to get in with the other ones. well that was my experience anyway. they probably feel the same way you do, and you should turn to them. it's hard to explain.
in middle school i was "best friends" with chase, except he'd consider his best friend to be josh. so i was never really there if josh was. eventually i got tired of wanting to be around them when they were always trying to be around other people. so i turned back to people that had always been nice to me but i'd never really thought of as friends, never really given a chance.
that didn't come out quite as i'd planned, but it was worth a shot.
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don't worry about the girl at work seriously
we'll all stick up for you if she gets lame.
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