interfaith relationships

[gujushorty712]

Hi Everyone

Comments

[co_techie]

I'm Catholic Indian and married a Jewish American - I'm not religious, I don't practice and very often believe that I'm more of an athiest. My husband is absolutely an athiest, so religion plays no part in our marriage. That said, my sister is Catholic, her husband is Muslim and they're raising their son with elements of both faiths without being overly observant of either. It seems to work for them because neither is hell-bent in favor of their own religion.

[gujushorty712]

that's great it worked out for you and your sister. I'm def. not religious and sometimes question organized religion, but my boyfriend seems more connected to his faith and doesn't show active interest in Indian activities. I know he would go and be supportive, but I doubt he would enjoy himself. I want my kids to be open mined and pantheistic and not call themselves Christian (bc of the idea that Jesus is the ONLY savior does not bode well w/ me.

[midnightsky316]

My husband comes from a Catholic family and I am Hindu. He is not a practicing Catholic, but I think that's why we work. When we do have children, they will be Hindu, but celebrate different holidays that his family celebrates. I always told my husband that if his family was worried and wanted to bapitize our child Catholic, I wouldn't mind, but that they would be practicing Hindus. I think what really makes marriages work and stick is that someone is willing to compromise their religion. Without knowing your relationship, I would look more deeply into the fact that he doesn't show active interest in Indian activities because seems that you really do.

[gujushorty712]

i really like your methodology and i wonder if my bf would be okay with that. I think the thing is a practicing Hindu can still be pretty laid back if they are not involved in going to Mandir (which i'm not serious about) but would start doing pooja in the morning. I will def. see how his involvement in my culture plays out. I am in the process of figuring out how what Indian activities he might like (stereotypical sports and video games kinda guy).

[ameena_acidz]

I come from a Hindu/Jain family and my husband's family is of various Christian faiths (although his parents recently became Jewish). Neither of us are religious at all, him atheist, me practically atheist.

It is my belief that every family should raise their kids to think for themselves, and find out for themselves what they want to do with their life in spiritual terms.

[mocroidh]

I'm Christian (Episcopalian) and my husband is Sikh. I'm moderately religious, and he's not religious at all (though he's very interested in religion and spirituality from an intellectual standpoint). We plan to raise our (as yet only theoretical) kids in both faiths. They will be baptized and attend church, but they'll also go to the gurudwara. Given that Sikhism is a monotheistic religion, I think things will be a little easier than if my husband was Hindu, but I still anticipate there may be some issues that arise. I plan to learn more about Sikhism so that I can teach them, but I also think the fact that his parents are living with us will be a big help. They're pretty religious, and they can give our kids knowledge of the nuances of Sikhism that I wouldn't be able to give them

[a_motley_fool]

Atheist, married to an Indian man. He's not very religious -- but his mom does. Honestly I just ignore it. I'm not often asked to pray or go to a temple.

[bitter_one]

This is something I think about a lot. My family is hindu, and are pretty active with the temple and other cultural activities. The Boy was raised Lutheran, and alternates between identifying as atheist and agnostic, though I'm pretty sure his family doesn't know this.

Faith is important to me, and I actually struggle to reconcile my SO's lack of faith and my own values - the fact he respects where I come from and is interested is essential to me. We plan to raise Hindutherans who hopefully grow up with a universalist approach where tey see all faith as paths to the divine.