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[mmmrorschach]

"Are you guys gonna watch 12 Days a Slave?"
"Actually, I think it's called 12 Years a Slave"Oh...that's much worse

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[ellelelle]

I'm nearly 27 and suffer the same debilitating problem with people. It's like being an imposter where people who seem to think good things about you.. just don't know you well enough. And it's pretty much turned out to be a self fulfilling prophecy - people sense that they really don't know you well enough.

And caring less probably will take a lot of effort, at least at first, because it won't come naturally. But the opposite is also a lot of effort - and pressure.

I'm personally trying to move more towards self compassion. Self esteem is probably a lie - we don't need to think we are fantastic all the time. We really aren't. Also that would be narcissism.

[mmmrorschach]

Ooh, I hate self-fulfilling prophecies. That whole, you meet your death on the path you take to avoid it. Makes you want to stay home occasionally peeking out of the shutters.

Yeah, I'm so used to believing that everything is important, it's going to take a while to train myself to let things go, especially things I have a kung-fu death grip on.

From now on, when I walk by a mirror, instead of rearing my head back in surprise, I'm going to do the wink and finger shot thing at myself. Confidence!

[mycat8mybrains]

my treadmill acts a closet for me. I hang clothes all over it /:
I'm going to make an effort to care less, but caring less shouldn't take effort, which is what's bugging me. I understand this all too well

[mmmrorschach]

I'm convinced that future archeologists are going to believe that workout equipment was used either as torture devices or clothes racks, or maybe both. "And this instrument of torture and humiliation was called the Powermax 9000. People were forced to strip naked, hang their clothes on it, and then run until their heart gave out. This is the only possible explanation."

[mycat8mybrains]

Hahaha d: Love it

[xilte]

I totally feel the same way! Oh vanity what have you done to us

[theiform]

Dude, caring less ALWAYS takes an effort. Don't feel bad. We're practically hardwired to care to the point of paranoia.

If you lie to yourself that you're ready to bring the weight bench in, then you can get totally winded bringing it inside and then tell yourself, "Oh no, looks like I'm not ready for this yet, back to square one!" and then 'go back to the basics'. "Oh, look, I DIDN'T eat that square of chocolate today, I must not need to exercise!" "Oh, wow, I walked the dog, that's enough for today!"

[mmmrorschach]

They should totally make anti-paranoia or positive paranoia pills that make you believe you're the object of an intricate universal conspiracy to make everything go your way.

Hahaha, if we did as much physical gymnastics as we did mental gymnastics, we'd be in great shape. Oh, and I totally play the "I didn't eat chocolate today" game, but with my finances. "Of course I can afford to buy these new shoes. Remember that yacht I didn't buy?"

[theiform]

Can't help but think of the Hitchhiker's Guide when you say that. Don't quite know why.

That's like saying, "Of course I can afford this new bag, it's 50% off!" I love it.

[elhoserboy]

Don't remember how I came across your journal or why I added you, but I'm glad I did. I understand this post completely. You are not alone! (Not that that makes it any easier to deal with.)