The Final Word in Crazy.

[phil_in_a_box]

This entry is about my parents. I chose this title because they are the final word in "crazy," plus this should be the final word on their craziness since I've finally given them the boot out of my life

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[phil_in_a_box]

The letter I wrote mom and dad (before I got the reply I posted here) went mostly like this:

I am sick of explaining myself to your deaf ears. I am done with being viewed through your twisted, delusional eyes.

I won't have any more to do with your paranoia, bitterness, fear, delusion, etc.

I was going to put something here about how on that Last Day I hope you get what you deserve; but I'm pretty sure you're in hell already.

Never contact me again.

-Philip Broderick

[jeweltoned]

wow.

w/o even getting into the religious stuff, writing something like "we pray for both of you to stop the cycle of unforgiveness and bitterness and be healed" is so condescending and it misses the point completely. enjoy your life, phil. you dont need that shit. family is important, of course, but it sounds like you've got one already... one that loves you and cares about you and needs you. go for that one.

[starlick]

There reply makes me so bloody mad (and freaked out) that I could scream. The whole thing is condescending.

It's not us, it's Lisa tampering with your memory.

It's not us, is your mental health.

It's not us, our family is lovely.

It's not us, it's your relationship with God.

etc...

*pulls hair out*

[starlick]

I especially love the bit at the end, after having trampled on every one of the boundaries you set, she asks you to respect her boundary to never ever talk about it again. How fucking convenient.

[jeweltoned]

yeah seriously, that's the best part

[technocratic]

I don't know if this helps or not, so please tell me to not talk about it if it doesn't, but I remember a lot of things from your perspective, too. I was an outsider, so won't pretend to have seen everything, but there were moments when I was over at your house where I thought I got a glimpse of how things might be. Even my mom has made a few comments to me over the years about her interactions with them. I'm so sorry you have had to deal with that.

[phil_in_a_box]

Everyone who comes into contact with my family knows there's something wrong with my parents, and deeply wrong with my mother. I used to hear about it from all my friends eventually, or even from their parents.

Of course that was only after they allowed me to have friends.

[pinkgerbil]

Pretty epic, that. Your parents sound a lot like my dad, which is why i never speak to him.. "its not my fault! I am a christain! Its not my fault! Its someone elses~"

[phil_in_a_box]

I think everyone who does such things deserves horrific punishment. It makes me wish I could still believe in an afterlife just so I could imagine that one day they'll get theirs.

But like I say about my parents, they're pretty much living in their own personal hell already. They believe they live in a fallen, sinful world that's full of danger and evil; they think they're surrounded by people who are full of danger and evil too; they've got no friends and even no family (except for one son); they have no good relationships, not even with each other. If they weren't so delusional they'd realize just how bad they have it, and that would almost be revenge enough for me.

[alienesse]

never been more glad to be a jew.

[phil_in_a_box]

I'm just glad that my sanity was spared enough that I've made it as far as I have, both in my life and in my rejection of what I was taught.