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[raysimoto]

I hear it all the time.

"My girlfriend is jealous. She thinks I have a crush on you."

"I can't wait for you to meet /newgirlfriend/. She's terrified of you."

"Please don't write on my Facebook wall. /Girlfriend/ picks a fight with me every time you do. Just email me."

I was discussing this with perich last night, and he said "Well, you're attractive

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just being silly

[cornekopia]

Yes, there's quite a distinction between "women" and "people" ....

Maybe it's the whole smart girl/glasses thing? Time to whip off those spiffy frames and focus attention on a more J-Love Hewitt approach?

[biscuitpig]

You're friends with a lot of men who don't do enough to make their girlfriends feel secure in their affections.

[vlvtjones]

To biscuitpig above: Ding ding ding ding!!!

[manley1]

I think Jill's the winner of this round.

[raysimoto]

This is correct. This is also why most of them are my ex-boyfriends.

!!!

[perich]

Claire Smithney is the person I was thinking of last night who told me recently that they were intimidated by you. I've just now remembered. Because Claire owned up to it. So. Yes. There.

[raysimoto]

Aw, Claire!!! That's so very sweet of you! I can assure you that I do NOT have my life in place, but that I DO want to get to know you better, as well. And we're practically neighbors! Let's get over ourselves and hang out!

Hooray for scary people!!!!

[jadis_a_jinn]

"When I first met you, I thought you were scary."

I get that all the time. Do what I do. Shrug it off.

You know who you are. You know what the truth is. Let the whoevers deal with the Rachel that exists in their head because it really has nothing to do with you. They don't even know you! The ones who matter will get to know you and love you and the ones who matter will always stick around.

Oh and um...don't actually demand friendship with fists in the air and screaming. Because that actually is scary.

But funny.

Re: Hooray for scary people!!!!

[biscuitpig]

I get "When I first met you, I thought you were scary" too, then they tell me the story of how they first met me and it is scary.

Rachel, I think you're confident that you're funny. That's what strikes people as confident. You might not be confident about everything.

[tamalinn]

I'm owning up, too, because early this year I said a similar thing to perich that chacksy did. You come off as a woman who's really got her act together, and your friends can't say enough wonderful things about you.

Being thought intimidating is ironic, though, because, right, you don't want to have less of what makes you that way. An old boyfriend once told me as we were breaking up that one of my failings was that I don't take no for an answer and therefore nearly always get what I want. And I thought, Wait, isn't that a good thing? Isn't that one of the reasons why you liked me in the first place? WTF.

As for your friends whose girlfriends get on their cases for knowing you, though, have they thought to maybe introduce you all? That way they can learn that you're quite real, that the qualities that make you intimidating are really great to be around, and that you're not scary at all?