Comments | seasidebee: There is a bright side. Really, there is.

seasidebee

There is a bright side. Really, there is.

Nov 19, 2019 10:33

I feel tired a lot of the time; I am not sleeping well (seasonal tourism interferes w/my sleep 5 & ½ months out of the year and this year, even though the season is over, it is taking me longer to get back into healthy sleep patterns). Yawn ( Read more... )

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taylorj1037 November 19 2019, 16:05:18 UTC

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tailofkasahara November 19 2019, 19:18:55 UTC

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bcegda November 20 2019, 00:51:38 UTC

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bcegda November 20 2019, 00:52:57 UTC

do there exist male companionship prospects, and if not, why not and what could be done?

aside from that, new moon soon :) things seem better then, usually

seasidebee November 21 2019, 19:42:52 UTC

No, not at the moment. Well, if I wanted to date married men, men half my age, or women, I'd never want for company. But those aren't my target demographic. Unfortunately, the men that have asked me out in the last several years are not men I want to spend time getting to know. They're decent men, just not for me. As far as what could be done about the dearth of available middle aged men around here, I really don't know. I have pondered that and have found no solution. I tried Match.com for a while recently. I saw a few interesting types. Three to 500 miles away......................... LOL

bcegda November 22 2019, 19:10:18 UTC

are all the middle aged men all prospecting towards the 30- group, as is their wont?

and yet the 20+ are prospecting for you?

people is so confused

was it easier to date as a younger woman, for you?

I ask because my so called 'love life' was a toxic dumpster fire till I was 27 or so when I met my SO and after that I haven't had to deal with that crap, thankfully. If I found myself single again I can't help thinkng anything would be better than that was

seasidebee November 25 2019, 16:51:34 UTC

Yes, many middle aged men here prefer younger women, just like any place else. I, conversely, am not remotely interested in being a "cougar", thanks very much. I fluctuate, on both counts, between live and let live and "ew", ick".

Yes, meeting prospective partners was much easier when I was younger. I lived in cities, or abroad, or was in college. The "dating pool" here is more like a wee puddle.

My love life has never been toxic, when I/we moved on from one another it was just time. They were good men, just not ones I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, ultimately.

Shrug.

rosewilderlane November 20 2019, 02:37:16 UTC

Your ability to find the positive is inspirational.

seasidebee November 21 2019, 19:44:10 UTC

I have Momma Bee to thank for that. I think its part genetic and part modeled behavior.