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skoolgrl1979

"Stolen" from a newsletter

Nov 18, 2003 12:21

This is NOT my writing. It was written by an 11th grader in Maryland who has Asperger's Syndrome. His name is Alex Mont. It came from page 8, Issue #3 of "The Arc: Insight". The ARC's website is http://www.thearc.org.

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uterdic November 18 2003, 18:44:12 UTC

This is how people should deal with bullies. I'm sure it wouldn't cause any problems.

absinthofheart November 19 2003, 05:22:15 UTC

Let me guess. My bro is on the far left side, looking confused, and that is his roomie on the far right side. Yes?

skoolgrl1979 November 19 2003, 09:18:15 UTC

YEp :)

skoolgrl1979 November 20 2003, 14:24:09 UTC

very cool

spectremeat November 18 2003, 18:49:09 UTC

If there's a bully bothering you, kick him in the balls. He should leave you alone.

If he doesn't, kick him in the balls again. Repeat as needed.

Bully skoolgrl1979 November 18 2003, 18:55:40 UTC

Well... there's no bully bothering me now but I've been meaning to post that. At some point I may do my bully rant in my LJ. :)

missmisty November 18 2003, 18:58:17 UTC

Amen.

nate101000 November 19 2003, 04:39:47 UTC

The big problem is in my mind that people let children behave in an uncivilized manner. If I was harassing a person on the street, shoving them, hitting them, and stealing their lunch money, I would likely be arrested.

Shouldn't schools always have a no-bullying policy? When is bullying ok?

If S ever has these kinds of problems, the school had better do something about them. And I want punishment for violent children. Otherwise I would simply just have to press charges for abuse.

skoolgrl1979 November 19 2003, 09:28:01 UTC

I agree there should be a no-bullying rule too. If we behave that was as adults we get in trouble (go to jail, get in trouble for harrassment). B/c the're kids, it's kinda brushed off. While the De-Bug thing sounded like it should have wrked (and sure, it probably did to a POINT) I think the kid is right in the since that the victim was STILL getting blamed if those things didn't work and that the bully will go on to hurt others ( ... )

skoolgrl1979 November 19 2003, 11:56:08 UTC

Yeah... I was really out of it when I typed that last comment. The no-bullying policy in some schools I was talking about is more than just tatteling (which is probably what it sounded like). I don't remember what else they're supposed to do. What IS happening is that the adults aren't intervening like they're supposed to. I mean, in the kid's case (the kid who wrote the article) it sounds like the adults ARE trying. However, what they're doing isn't always working. Sometimes bullying isn't physical at all, it's also verbal or just social. It's considered "as bad" but it is. For example, my friends' older brother carreid EVERYTHING from his locker in his back pack in self-defense: otherwise, people would break into his locker and throw his stuff around the halls. If he lost a paper b/c of this HE got punished (by getting a failing mark on a paper he spent three weeks workin on) and he had to pay for a new locker each time he got a new one. In junior high, if I sat at a table people would either get up and leave or else they ( ... )

nate101000 November 20 2003, 15:26:08 UTC

I wrote a big long reply but LJ lost it. So here it is in a nutshell. It is that simple. From very early on we should teach children that violence is wrong and should never be used to solve problems. We should consistently punish violent behavior in children.

absinthofheart November 19 2003, 05:41:36 UTC

I was a victim of bullying as a child. I ignored it for years as my mother and teachers told me to. I admit I never tried to befriend my bullies, but then I was not so stupid as to try (who wants to be friends with abusive jackasses anyhow, not that it would ever work) It took following my dad's advice, which was to fight back, to make the bullying stop. So, I had to physically fight my bully to get the message through that I would no longer be a good victim. That seems to be the only real option for kids. I know now that if my teacher, or the school had interviened when I asked them to, that things could have ended peacefully, but for whatever reason, they refused. There should be strict punishment for bullies. A strict system of warning, detention, suspention, and then expulsion would probably help to decrease this problem.

skoolgrl1979 November 19 2003, 12:02:00 UTC

In some cases, fighting works and sometimes it doesn't. Then, the person who fights back gets looked at as another bully (sometiems) rather than someone who shoudln't be messed with. The kids who can't fight STILL get bullied then (can't fight as in NOT ALLOWED to fight back b/c their parents won't back them up or can't fight as it DON'T KNOW HOW). This is coming from someone who's only been in four fights in my entire life (counting the one a week ago when I accidently kicked my boss' ass). I'm sure most of the "fighters" in my school really DIDN'T want to fight but they saw it as the only solution. After ignoring (which you did) and moving away (which you did) didn't work, the teachers should have told you HOW to talk to the bullies (which you may have tried). If they (teachers, other authorities) had been paying attention they probably would have solved that problem before it started. Unfortunately, they can't watch everything and they expect people to act maturely, which they don't (the bullies were acting immaturely, NOT ( ... )

madush69 November 19 2003, 13:47:34 UTC

I don't know if the authority figures will ever be able to "Nip the problem in the bud," but I know they must do something. Since I believe bullies make no sense, someone must figure out a way to eliminate them. (I don't mean kill them, I mean prevent their development.)
I was picked on all through school. My first day at the bus stop for kindergarten I got picked on by a 6th grader. The next morning my Mom told Mrs. McDonald (The kid's Mom) that she should have her son stop picking on me, she got mad. I'll never understand that. If my son was picking on littler kids I'd take his toys away for a month ( ... )

skoolgrl1979 November 19 2003, 17:28:11 UTC

I think part of the problem is that the teachers and other authority figures only start to take care of it when the problem is big (kids are fist-fighting or whatever). I think that if the problem were caught early on then it would be better. But hey're trying to catch all the bigger problems and letting hte "smaller" onces slide. (Like name calling or whatever). But I think they're treating they symptom reather than the problem sometiems ( ... )