LJ Idol 11 Week 2

[sunouttomorrow]

Relationship toxicity seems to be a buzzword/topic in recent years, and I get it. Truly, I do. There’s talk about breaking off relationships that are toxic between friends, partners, spouses, parents, siblings, co-workers and any other type of relationship that you could think of. But…there’s never talk about a toxic relationship with your child.

Comments

[roina_arwen]

This is a tough situation, for sure. He may be your kid, but legally he’s an adult. He obviously doesn’t want to take any responsibility for himself or his life, and at some point you’ll have to kick him out or he never will. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way!

[sunouttomorrow]

It is a tough situation. The entitlement he holds is a big part of the issue as well. I'll grab those hugs and good thoughts and hang on to them. Thank you!

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[sunouttomorrow]

Wow! Thank you for the rec and for reading. :)

[millysdaughter]

**hugs**
That is hard.

[sunouttomorrow]

Yes, it is. Thanks for reading and commenting.

[d0gs]

I'm sorry you're dealing with this and I really hope things improve for you D:

[sunouttomorrow]

I hope so too, but it doesn't look promising right now. Thank you for your comment.

[halfshellvenus]

Oh, gosh, I'm so sorry about both kids. Your son especially-- I remember the problems from when he was younger, and I'd hoped they'd improved, but it sounds as if they haven't

[sunouttomorrow]

I wondered if anyone would remember or connect from posts years ago. If we could have afforded it, we might have looked into military schools. I blame myself for the mistakes that were made with his schooling. We moved him to several looking for a right fit and never really found it.

He's been in and out of therapy (including family therapy) - enough to know how to manipulate therapists - and has chosen to not pursue it any longer. He doesn't feel that it does anything for him, which I understand to a degree. I've thought about therapy for myself, but haven't quite got to that point yet.

Thank you for the hugs and for commenting.

[halfshellvenus]

I actually meant psychiatry rather than just therapy. Because it sounds as if he is 'wired' differently (or working with a different brain-chemistry baseline) than most people, and it might help to know exactly what's going on and whether any meds might help.

This must just be so heartbreaking and exhausting for you and your husband. :(

[sunouttomorrow]

He's taken that path as well and rejected it. Part of me thinks he needs a rock bottom as well before he realizes that he really needs help, but as a parent, watching them find rock bottom is just so heartbreaking.