Mom's cat update

[taylorj1037]

Thanks to everyone for their feedback on my Mom's surprise adoption of a kitten, which made her apartment unvisitable for my wife due to her severe cat allergies.

This Sunday when I called her, she announced that my brother and his wife had just come by to pick up the kitten because she couldn't handle her high energy level. They have several cats

Comments

[bcegda]

i think that you probalby are, more than you think

if you weren't concerned about it at all you probably wouldn't be

great that the cat thing resolved itself!

[seasidebee]

I didn't see a post about your Mother and a cat?

Where is it?

Gosh, I miss so much here. I wish there were better ways to keep track, and ways to filter things I don't want to see.

Glad things resolved on both fronts, kitten and stove.

I think you're being too hard on yourself, T.

Yes, you owe it to yourself and your wife to be a good partner, to strive to have a viable, healthy relationship, but what that woman in the article is describing is an idealized version of a mate. She's perpetuating the Prince Charming stereotype, imho. That's a lot to have to live up to. From things you've said in the past it is clear you make an effort to meet her need for more romance etc, more support and nurturing, and that you love her. Effort and intention and love count.

[taylorj1037]

Here's the original cat post: https://43tags.livejournal.com/143229.htmlThanks for the encouragement. She's really brilliant - master's degree in one of the social sciences from a Big 10 university. Great with numbers and statistics. We went through a period in the early 90s when she became sick due to exposure to chemicals at work, which forced her to quit working, and which she's never completely recovered from. So I focused on my career, knowing I'd be the main breadwinner, at least for a while. There have been times since then when she's had career opportunities that she had to pass up because of my career. We were getting to a point in 2008 where she was doing much better and we were well-established in our small city, and there were more opportunities for her to work outside the home. But then I got laid off from my media job and we had to relocate to a bigger city where I was lucky enough to get a gubmit job. And of course we didn't really know anyone here and have to live on the outskirts of town due to housing prices.

[seasidebee]

I am denied access from reading the original post. That's the first time I have ever seen that. A whole page devoted to telling me "You shall not paaaasssssssssssss!" (That's my Gandalf impression

[taylorj1037]

What a bummer! Maybe you didn't get added to the 43Tags group, which is where I post a lot of things, rather than just in my own Journal.
I know there are some people who also post in TheDinghy.
Not sure where we're supposed to be posting things.
I'm pretty sure I see all your posts, seasidebee. They show up in my Inbox for some reason.
I'll repost the original here so you can see it.

[rosewilderlane]

The fact that you want to be that person for your wife and that you are worried about not doing enough for her makes you a beautiful person and spouse. I can feel the love in your writing, and it makes me so happy to read.

[taylorj1037]

Thank you, rosewilderlane! That's so kind of you to say.