Comments | thaddeusdagan: Coming Out to My Brother

thaddeusdagan

Coming Out to My Brother

Mar 24, 2011 17:52

But first, news! mfrazercani got a job!!! He got hired back at the same place that fired him, actually, at the same rate of pay. Who knows what happened? The manager broke up with him and then realised he'd made the biggest mistake of his life? They thought 5 months of misery would be good for his character? I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth, ( Read more... )

gainfully employed, life is sometimes sunshine and roses, fraternising, coming out, letters i have written

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indigofan March 25 2011, 16:49:53 UTC

::hug::

I think the letter is brilliant. You were clear and forward. Honest. You make no excuses (nor should you), but you explain yourself very well.

I hope things work out for you.

::more hugs::

thaddeusdagan March 27 2011, 11:36:25 UTC

Thank you. :) I haven't seen you or your fiancee (!) on chat at all in a while, but I've seen your FB & LJ posts. I miss you and I hope you're both well.

moonboy_1288 March 26 2011, 05:43:08 UTC

You really covered all your bases in this. You've provided a good deal of information. I might almost say it is too much information for a first discussion of the topic. But I think it is all very well stated and explained.

Best of Luck!
-Rory

thaddeusdagan March 27 2011, 11:37:37 UTC

Thank you.

meegosh March 26 2011, 12:45:42 UTC

Fantastic letter - I hope that your brother reacts in much the same way as my sisters - that is fantastically. My sister who had the baby the other day, the day I had with them I got to spent the day being "uncle bug".

thaddeusdagan March 27 2011, 11:39:22 UTC

Thank you - and that's completely fantastic! I'm so glad you have such a good relationship with your sister and your new niece or nephew.

Thank you! finnylovesbard March 29 2011, 07:59:30 UTC

Thank you for sharing this, it's been a long six years for me, and I can't even imagine how awful it was for you ( ... )

Re: Thank you! finnylovesbard March 29 2011, 08:00:39 UTC

Sometime during sophomore year I had misplaced one of my most comfortable fitting bra. Whether or not it was on accident or if it was my subconscious was telling me "Come on, are you kidding me!? This isn't you!" I don't know. I had to find something to wear though, so I looked through my sister's drawer, and found a never-been-used, too-big-for-my-sister sports bra. I put it on and it fit tightly, but under a loose coat... I looked flat chested, albeit a little chubby! I was extremely happy and I continued to wear the bra for weeks, a little peeved it really only worked to make me look flat chested in looser clothing. I was way too happy for a normal girl, and I knew it. At that time I really looked into transsexualism and how to transition. More and more I looked, and I became more and more depressed. I never reached the point of self harm, but I had begun to project my feelings onto my family much more than I had meant to. As I read the articles and blogs, I was so overwhelmed with the fact that all of these guys were so ( ... )

Re: Thank you! finnylovesbard March 30 2011, 03:42:26 UTC

You know, I also forgot to tell you about the fact that when I got interested in cosplay I immediately went, "I could cosplay him!" and "I could crossplay her!" (Cosplay is basically acting in costume, if you didn't know, and crossplay means the same thing, only you are also crossdressing to play the part.) I would try to correct myself, because I would have actually been crossplaying as a guy and cosplaying as a girl, but it never worked XD I guess my subconscious really was correcting me before I knew that I was really a guy.

Re: Thank you! thaddeusdagan April 7 2011, 07:33:20 UTC

Sorry for the delay - internet's down at my house, so I can't get to LJ.

I'm glad you're figuring stuff out, and I wish you all the best in your journey. I'm glad my letter helped you some.

radiosound April 3 2011, 19:17:32 UTC

hey tad! it's your cousin, emily. my mom forwarded your (beautifully articulated) email to me, and i noticed that you linked to your livejournal at the end. i've had my livejournal for ages, so i was excited to see that you've got one, too! it's been years since i've seen you, but i just wanted to say hello and that i am so, so glad to see that you are happy. take care!

love, emily.

thaddeusdagan April 7 2011, 07:36:32 UTC

I'm so glad you found me! Do you mind if I friend your journal? Thank you, and I hope you're well, too. I heard you got accepted to grad school - congrats! I hope to do that myself soon.

How's your mom dealing with this whole thing of mine? I think I'm going to call her tomorrow - my mum said she was having a bit of a rough time with it.

Take care of yourself, and I hope we get a chance to talk or see each other some time.

radiosound April 7 2011, 20:51:19 UTC

i don't mind if you friend me at all. in fact, i'll friend you in return! i would love to stay in touch. and thank you! i can't believe grad school is actually happening, but i don't think i could be more excited.

you know, i'm not actually sure how my mom is handling it. she called me right after she got your email and was clearly shocked, although i haven't actually talked with her about it since then. the timing here was kind of interesting, though, because just last month she had a chance to meet and see a few of my friends who are trans speak publicly about their experiences. it was the first time she'd ever interacted with somebody who she was aware was trans, and it's sparked a lot of conversation between us afterwards. she still misuses pronouns sometimes, but i think she's really working at understanding. i do know that she still loves you, and i truly hope that she is able to extend that understanding to you.