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[turpentyne86]

This may be sexist, and I'm sorry if it offends, but lately I have noticed that males tend to have horrible social skills, and it is gaining rank on my pet peeve list. I may not be the best conversationalist, or the most socially inclined, but I know the basics, and I am at least aware of my inadequacies.

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[peregrinus0]

boys are stupid and rarely pick up the basic social niceties of the female population. it is an astute observation more so than a sexist remark.

[bonusbunny]

I could be conversely said that females are better at bullshitting.

[bonusbunny]

Not that I believe that's true. Both genders are equally capable, proficient even, in phoniness.

[turpentyne86]

I realize that bad social skills apply to both sexes, but I feel like women spend more time learning, and are taught at an earlier age, how to read and relate to others in a way that understanding can be reached.
It's just that lately men have been making me feel isolated when I try to communicate with them.

[turpentyne86]

I didn't want my comments to make people defensive; however, perhaps I should have made it more clear that not all men are conversationally disappointing. I have just had several recent encounters with people at work and whatnot that have made it seem like the male gender has not been adequately taught how to communicate with others.
I'm not expecting to hear slumber party secrets or the latest scoop, I just want some honesty, and some mutual feelings of connection. I need to feel like I'm being understood. I need affirmations. And I don't think that is too much to ask. Not every convesation has to be ultra deep and meaningful--but some flow and substance would be nice.
I like women, but frequently I like talking with men (male relationships have a wonderful simplicity that I really value) and it has just become more clear to me that there are tons of men who lack social skills--my dad being one of them.

[anonymous]

Isn't it funny that the older we get, the less perfect our parents seem? I recently realized that adults are just grown-up kids. I'm an adult now (by most standards) and I don't feel any different than 10 years ago. I think it's the same for 40 yr olds too.

[dagger]

I would like to say something on this.
Perhaps we do know how to communicate, its just that we don't want to.
becuase we are lazy.
or just don't care.
or we're insane.
or we just suck at communicating.

take your pick

[turpentyne86]

It's interesting that the only people to comment on this post are males, so I don't quite buy it that men don't care.

[jadugar]

Hmm.

I think having gone through social psych makes me too inclinded to disagree on a scale far away from a direct way.

Everyone's fucked up, is what you learn in annormal psych.
And well; it's communication.