I believe you because I totally agree about your conclusion of marriage. Not for me, not something I'd want, not something I'd be willing to do because when I feel that happiness in a relationship that makes some people start thinking about marriage I just smile to myself because I'm really happy with my relationship. No desire for marriage at all. So I can see why someone else might feel that way too
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I think marriage is essentially just piece of paper that makes it legal. it shouldn't change the couple, Richard and I will get married but for legal reasons mostly but because it feels right, we already act and feel like we're married mentally. Some people do get hysterical about marriage, as it really is just a piece of paper and if you live together it's pretty much the same thing in my eyes when you strip in down to the bare essentials.
Also marriage isn't for everybody and modern life allows that it's perfectly fine to never get married. a lot more people are single now out of choice as they're happier. Sometimes humans are like hamsters, fight to the death in the same living space lol
For me, as a person who has always wanted to be married, its because it would be the ultimate 'proof' that the guy really wants to stay with me all his life
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I understand the intellectual curiosity side of self help books, even if the generalizing is a bit dangerous. I'm not typically male and I personally don't much like being put in that box.
Hmmm, some of us worry about marriage and some don't, I have friends who've married when kids have arrived, and I think that makes some sense, as a contract for taking on that responsibilty. Also as a declaration that you intend to. Personally I dread the whole ceremony side of it, and if you keep it small, the unhappy parents! Plus I'm an aetheist in a family of believers... It's a no-win situation.
Self help books. If you find them a help/comfort Ok all well and good but I think that thay can do more harm by giving the person who reads them Far too much to think/worry about,everyone and each relationship is very different the key factor to Any relationship is just three things - Honesty,Communication & Trust.
Marraige. It's a very personal choice but at the end of the day if two people want to be together then they'll stay together no matter what. Things don't change once there's rings on fingers, certificates & vows said, it's all down to the very same thing - two people wanting sharing their lives together good times and bad/sad. Kim and I have been living together now for 20 years and like every relationship we do have our ups & downs its not easy but we work through them together as a couple, a little give and take helps along the way but like I said it's all down wanting to be together for us nothing/no one else in the world matters.
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Also marriage isn't for everybody and modern life allows that it's perfectly fine to never get married. a lot more people are single now out of choice as they're happier. Sometimes humans are like hamsters, fight to the death in the same living space lol
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Hmmm, some of us worry about marriage and some don't, I have friends who've married when kids have arrived, and I think that makes some sense, as a contract for taking on that responsibilty. Also as a declaration that you intend to. Personally I dread the whole ceremony side of it, and if you keep it small, the unhappy parents! Plus I'm an aetheist in a family of believers... It's a no-win situation.
As a side note - I keep seeing these japanese figures with cute little hats and thinking of you!
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If you find them a help/comfort Ok all well and good but I think that thay can do more harm by giving the person who reads them Far too much to think/worry about,everyone and each relationship is very different the key factor to Any relationship is just three things - Honesty,Communication & Trust.
Marraige.
It's a very personal choice but at the end of the day if two people want to be together then they'll stay together no matter what. Things don't change once there's rings on fingers, certificates & vows said, it's all down to the very same thing - two people wanting sharing their lives together good times and bad/sad.
Kim and I have been living together now for 20 years and like every relationship we do have our ups & downs its not easy but we work through them together as a couple, a little give and take helps along the way but like I said it's all down wanting to be together for us nothing/no one else in the world matters.
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