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[vera_calida]

guh. my sister just called me in tears, looking for our father. it's weird, there's a whole bunch of her life i know nothing about, and am not involved in - her mother, all the drama between her and my father (and our sister)...all that's just secondhand. her mother would kill jalyne if she knew jalyne even sees us...there's all this tension there

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[jiveslippers]

There aren't many emotions more hateful than feeling limited in a relationship with someone you truly care about. It comes nowhere close to your situation - in fact it's really just plain weird - but whenever I pass a girl crying by herself, on the street or anywhere, I feel this overwhelming urge to go over and comfort them, but I can't, because if I did that would be pretty creepy, and I get really frustrated and upset. A couple of times it's been too much, and I couldn't help myself and I just went over and talked to them, but I think both I and the girls felt better as a result (they actually didn't hit me and scream and run or anything like that - one of them got coffee with me! too bad she wasn't cute

[vera_calida]

thanks. i've actually been thinking about doing something similar, or at least talking to her.

and yeah, i remember once i was crying hysterically, and this random guy came up to me with a bottle of water, and gave it to me, saying: "here, it helps." and just walked away....it was incredibly sweet, and did make me feel better.

[yarki]

I wish I could be someone's little sister. I would try to be nice.
Could you have just said to her "hey, it's okay, you can talk to me about it, I'm here to listen"? If you let her know that you're open to that other part of her life, maybe you two can start to connect in that as-yet uncharted territory. I really don't know. I just hope things turn out all right.

[vera_calida]

i did, but i think that wasn't the right time to talk about that stuff for the first time openly.

[poppyseedpaul]

i can't say anything more than the useless "you'd understand if you were her" deal...sometimes there's just someone you need to speak to about something and that's usually when they happen not to be there. that's why you need 'em.

*sigh*

from what i read, you're trying to be the sister you wrote that you can't be and i'm pretty sure your sister thinks that counts more than anything.

so sometimes, you can't help. but maybe next time, you will. it's not up to you, really...

<3 life is too complicated sometimes.
i'm sorry for random musing..