Sub for Hire?

[whipslave20]

Some playing was done over the holidays, wherein I found myself as an experienced subbie teaching a new and inquisitive domme what I have learned about kink.

Over the last couple of years I have learned a fair amount about kink.  Rather than going in with a list of my own requests, I've come appreciate the Happy Mistress Face.  I've learned a bit

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[whipslave20]

I think the guys in those videos are subs, but I wouldn't say they are professional subs in the way that we have pro dommes.

I suspect they were probably asked to participate but they weren't paid. I know some friends who have appeared in videos. They did it because the domme was someone they wished to help/serve, and this was one way they could do so.

[gwen666]

The men in the "Men In Pain" videos are paid. I suspect they did it because they wished to serve the domme or they provide sexual services to males. Money (not very good - about $500 per video) is not a living wage.
I think if a lady wanted a male sub she would just contact an establishment like salon Kitty's or The Kastle, I'm sure the headmistress could arrange what was needed through their contacts.
If Mistress Jadis or Servalan asked you to provide such a service for a curious female client, would you say no ? (Perhaps this has already happened ?)
I'd probably volunteer if there was a professional domme I trusted supervising.

[whipslave20]

That's another good point. Pro dommes tend to be pretty well connected and have male sub friends who could oblige.

As for what I would do if asked, I've put a lot of trust in Mistress Jadis and if she trusted a female client I could too.

[impulsivedesire]

I definitely agree with you here. I've been approached with offers to Domme professionally but when I rationalize it, I could never do it. To me, the kink is ingrained in me and I can't separate the emotional side of it to be a Domme for hire. I have to be emotionally invested in the people I play with, not monetarily invested.

I have no qualms with others who explore that avenue of kink, but it's not for me.

[whipslave20]

I could switch off the need to be emotionally involved for a while, but it would catch up with me.

[tonbi_nawa]

You'll find that male workers for females in any part of the sex industry is very remote, including, male subs, Doms, escorts, etc

[whipslave20]

I know. I've heard of male doms and escorts but even they are rare. I think pro male subs would be the least lucrative part of the sex industry if they even exist.

[anonymous]

It poses an interesting question, insofar as you've noted that Mistress Jadis was able to help you explore and grow into your kink...in the absence of a professional male sub, I get the impression that a woman wanting to explore her own kink may have to do so in more public forums; be more 'out' there. It must be doubly daunting to have to seek that learning, growing environment in that way - at least, it would be for me...

M.

[whipslave20]

That's a good point. What does a domme woman do if she's shy or otherwise unable to be public about her kink?

Munches are a pretty unintimidating way to meet people and get ones proverbial feet wet, but it took me a long time to get to one. For a long time, going to a munch would have been terrifying.

[the_engel]

"What does a domme woman do if she's shy or otherwise unable to be public about her kink?" Take art classes and play sims2/3. =) It takes a lot of time if you're shy to get going. I followed the munches online for months, reading everything before I ventured out.

[whipslave20]

Ahhhh. So that's what they do. I understand the shyness though. It took a long time for me to go to my first munch. I suspect I wouldn't have gone at all if I hadn't eased myself into the scene via professionals though. I had to be ok in private before I was ok in public.

Mitzi mentions ...

[anonymous]

There were days where I would've killed for a professional manslut. I would fantasise about the phone call: dark, thanks, sinewy arms, if possible; yes, snarly and mean, but not too overbearing - you got one? Oh good. Send him round. An hour? Perfect.

There are plenty of guys going professional, but they are for the gay market. I'm sure a whole heap of them are subs. There are some countries where you don't have to leave the leisure of your cafe table to order exactly what you want for dessert. Australians don't need to go professional. In more desperate economies, men sell sex just as easily as women - I wonder if it's with the same stigma?

PS I did not travel in the crass way described: fortunately this Burger never had to pay for dessert, the dolce vita was largely gratis.

Re: Mitzi mentions ...

[whipslave20]

Yes I imagine most of the male sex workers of all varieties are aimed at the gay market. I'm happy to play on a gay rugby team, but that is where it stops. Playing with guys is a hard no for me.