ADHD/ADOS and Why I suck at people.

[wiserabbit]

I've not posted here for a long time, but I need to cry, to post and to talk for a long time, and thought that this would be the best place to do it. I'm not sure if anyone even reads this anymore, but hey ho, here we go. I know a lot of people who disapprove of speaking about mental illness openly but quite frankly, FUCK THAT SHIT. If more people

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[shazrasha]

I can see why this took a long while to write. That is a fair bit of stuff to be working through and with. Thank you for sharing.

I understand that it is sometimes hard to believe the words when they are said to you but I will put them here anyway for you to come back to because I can't often express myself on this front so am taking the momentum I've got and rolling with it.

Ever since I met you I have liked you. The more I get to know about you the more this is true. You are one of a select group of people I have always felt comfortable around. I am further away than I used to be which makes keeping in contact harder but that makes me cherish the time I get to see you more.

You are quite simply my friend. Any help I am able to give and certainly all my understanding.

[wiserabbit]

Thank you, love. You are just as appreciated. xx

[shazrasha]

I don't see you as much as I like but how other people behave is never something we can control (including bullies). Also, you're you and it's all of you that I've been fond of, these things are 'just' labels. We all have different labels/issues (me too) and I hope you don't isolate yourself from your friends.

My brother also probably has aspergers and mental health issues. Who defines what's normal anyway? I found an essay today that said i wanted to be a hermit when i grow up with a pet 'tarancular' who'd bite my brother and live on an uninhabited island with a millionaire husband (this was when i was aged 10). Clever people notice and question themselves more. . Xx

[wiserabbit]

Thank you Al, this was a scary thing to post and the messages and pm's I 've had have justified doing it. People need to talk about these things. x

[spiraltower]

Surely, a lot of this is just new labels. You are still the same person that you ever were. You are still cool, funny, clever, skilled, loving, loved and so very much more. Above that, you are not alone.

Some of what you mention about open doors and not being able to filter stimuli sounds rather familiar, actually. Not at all to the degree that you describe, but I certainly have great difficulty filtering one sound out from many unless I really concentrate. It makes listening to orchestral or polyphonic music so affecting that I actually avoid such, but it makes hearing what people are saying to me in a noisy space really hard. Small potatoes compared to your description, but I can begin to understand. As for a 'paradigm shift', as you put it; yes. I can relate. I was about 37 before I learned that Asexuality was even a thing and it perfectly explained why I'd been unhappy in every sexual relationship I'd ever had. The revelation/understanding hasn't changed me as a person, but it's made me understand more about myself and how I

[psion_x]

Well, damn.
That all sounds more familiar and resemblant of myself than I really care to admit...
Either way, that's neither here nor there.

You are who you are, your friends will accept that and treat you the same as always.
Because we are your friends, and that's what we do :-)

[ed_fortune]

I'm very glad to have you as a friend and always have been. I don't get to see you as often as I'd like, but you're a friend and a good person. (At least as far as I'm concerned). You rock, you always have.

[choccoweeble]

You are largely responsible for creating something that completely changed my life in an amazing way. And that's just one of the ways in which I think you're awesome.

If you want to get rid of me, you're going to have to try a lot harder than that ;-)