Informal poll: I do want to have children, though I'm certainly not ready yet. I'm not sure I'll ever be ready until I have them though. I would strongly prefer them to be my own (or at least some of them), as I feel a need to pass my genes along. I think they're pretty decent genes, so I feel justified.
Personally, I definitely want children, at some point. This has been a point of... not exactly contention, but discussion, I suppose, with Brie. She seems to feel more or less as you do, and also thinks (not unreasonably) that it's easy for me to say I want children, inasmuch as I'm not the one who's going to be doing the actual child-bearing. In any event it is, as you say, many years away, so we don't really worry about it.
I'd never really thought about the biological/not biological question. I just sort of always assumed my children would be biologically mine. I think I'd prefer that, but not really for any good reason, just biological instinct.
Good lord no. I can't even deal well with immature adults, and they don't spit stuff all over me. Possibly this will no longer be an issue to me much much later, but kids annoy the crap out of me.
That being said, I'm sort of indifferent about the related part. I don't think I have enough caveman instinct to insist that my genes be passed on. I honestly don't think I would distinguish much between my own child and one adopted at a very young age.
yeah, i definitely want kids. i hate babies (although everyone assures me that i'll just LOVE the child if it's my own), but i adore small children and teenagers. most of the messy, loud, cry-y stuff that people complain about stops being as bad of a problem by 5, and then all the fun comes. teaching them to read, playing sports together, family dinners, family vacations. i wiggle with glee.
how long? don't know. probably not for years (hopefully less than a decade since you can't ignore the ol' biological clock), but accidents happen. who knows.
i want at least one of my own because i think being pregnant is an important life experience for a woman. not everyone would agree with me (and not everyone can get pregnant), but for me I gotta do it at least once. after that, though, i think adoption is a realistic possibility. i could skip the crappy stages that i hate and go straight to the good stuff.
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I do want to have children, though I'm certainly not ready yet. I'm not sure I'll ever be ready until I have them though. I would strongly prefer them to be my own (or at least some of them), as I feel a need to pass my genes along. I think they're pretty decent genes, so I feel justified.
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I'd never really thought about the biological/not biological question. I just sort of always assumed my children would be biologically mine. I think I'd prefer that, but not really for any good reason, just biological instinct.
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That being said, I'm sort of indifferent about the related part. I don't think I have enough caveman instinct to insist that my genes be passed on. I honestly don't think I would distinguish much between my own child and one adopted at a very young age.
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how long? don't know. probably not for years (hopefully less than a decade since you can't ignore the ol' biological clock), but accidents happen. who knows.
i want at least one of my own because i think being pregnant is an important life experience for a woman. not everyone would agree with me (and not everyone can get pregnant), but for me I gotta do it at least once. after that, though, i think adoption is a realistic possibility. i could skip the crappy stages that i hate and go straight to the good stuff.
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