Belated weekend update...

[ed209uardo]

... Went to Miami with Theo last Friday. Traffic and MARTA conspired against us. Flight was scheduled to leave at 6:25pm, and we walked into the airport at 6:06pm. Somehow, we made to gate D9 in 20 minutes flat. *woohoo* In the rush out of the house, forgot my cell phone. Rick was there to get us in Ft. Lauderdale. Borrowed his to make the

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[muffle1969]

*hug*

[ed209uardo]

... Thank you. For everything...

[poisongirl]

I think there's a law somewhere that grandma's must spend a shitload of cash on the grandkids. Just go with it. ;-) When it was made very clear to my ex-mother-in-law that I was not having kids, she began buying tons of crap for my freaking cats.

As for the guilt over your separation and divorce? Speaking as a child of a couple who stayed together for the kids? You did right by Theo in ending the relationship with his mom. The resentments and various other things are much harder on the kid than the separation will be. Trust me. I know from experience. It's corny, but take some comfort in the knowledge that he's young and will get over this eventually.
Divorce? Sadly, I know about that one too. I still feel pangs of guilt about leaving him, about failing the marriage, etc. However, I know in my heart and mind that it was the best for the both of us. We'd have killed each other (literally) had we kept it together.

You're in my thoughts. I loves ya. I got a shoulder if you need it.

[ed209uardo]

... Ha! I could never imagine my mom getting anything for the cats... *grin*

... Uhm, I can't take much credit (if any) for our separation. That decision was pretty much taken out of my hands...

... Thanks for the offered shoulder, but I'm pretty sure I won't be needing it...

[flyswatter]

I'm so sorry you went through that.

[ed209uardo]

... Thankfully, that episode lasted all of like maybe an hour or so. A wet Theo wanting to hug me, just to get me wet, helped drag me out of it, especially after I told him his uncle needed a hug, too... *grin*

[minduck]

*hugs* It will get easier with time, dear. This is coming from a girl who had a guilt-riddled would-have-been 5th anniversary last year...in Brazil! What is up with us traveling on our 5th anniv?? I'm coming up on what would have been my 6th anniv (a week from Sunday) and I'm sooo glad all of that is over with!

I agree with poisongirl. Divorce is so not the worst thing to happen to a kid. I wish my parents had gotten divorced...my life would have been a lot better.

Even if the separation wasn't your choice, it still sounds like you are blaming yourself for not doing something to make her stay. I don't know the story, dear, but sometimes it just doesn't work out. I'm sure you aren't perfect, but neither is she, and it isn't fair to yourself or Theo to try to take the blame for it not working out.

Also, he is 5...of course he doesn't want to get married. Girls are icky ;)

I'm glad you had a nice trip overall, and I'm glad I got to meet you last month. I look forward to seeing you again at some point!

[ed209uardo]

... Well, it has gotten easier, but it won't be over anytime soon; least not 'til Theo goes off to college...

... Well, things didn't really escalate until about 9 months ago, when the beginning of the split happened. Suddenly, I couldn't hold back on anything, good or bad, and bad flowed much easier then... *sigh*

... I'm not taking all the blame for it, not by a long shot. There's more than enough blame to go around, but part of it is mine, too...

... And unless it's me or his mom, kissing is pretty icky, too...

... I enjoyed meeting you, too. I think you have my number, so drop me a line sometime...

[hopscotchn9]

I just sent you an email.

[ed209uardo]

... Read you e-mail. Thanks for the sentiment, Ashley, but unfortunately, we're still a long way from being okay. I am very glad that we seem to have figured out how to be civil. Actually, better than civil, now that I think about it. Just have to take it a day at a time...