Comments | posteverything: #3-0 (advice for jilted men)

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#3-0 (advice for jilted men)

Mar 23, 2009 22:04

So, in the very beginning of all of this, that still early part of our chronologies where some still claim is childhood but others see it as the first few years of being a young adult, whatever that really means, the two genders walks into it with vastly different versions of what they think things such as dating, and love, mean. The girls, already ( Read more... )

coping with love and love lost

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lewbasnight March 24 2009, 03:38:23 UTC

I like this "one post a year" thing. I can keep up with that.

(I used to follow you under another name, but I had to give it up, because my old livejournal got sick and died.)

posteverything March 24 2009, 10:57:57 UTC

Most years could probably just be all summed up by one LJ post, that's my theory! I'm joking, but it's kind of amazing just how long I've put off posting because I've been "busy". I didn't realize it had almost been a year for me until a couple of days ago. Time just has a way of...passing.

If it walks like infanttyrone and quacks like infanttyrone, then it must be infanttyrone. :)

lewbasnight March 24 2009, 15:36:31 UTC

"OK real world, all of you just knock it off for a bit. I have some very important internet-style business to take care of, so just cool yer jets for a few."

It's just that easy.

Was it the Pynchon that gave me away? Or the quacking?

posteverything March 25 2009, 14:58:43 UTC

What you wrote is eerily accurate in the sense that I do address the whole world at times (though only a sad percentage actually hears), and in ways very similar.

It was your location: Chicago. Oddly I only know one other person who lives there on LJ, and she doesn't post the same kinds of things as you. :)

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Cough Cough... It's dusty in here. kenopolis March 24 2009, 04:39:54 UTC

Man, it sounds like something's going on with you. Like moving to Lawrence has got you looking at things differently.
I'm sure it's more than that. Your whole life is getting ready to change.

I've never been able to keep up with you. Always on the cutting edge of things. At least that's they way it appears to me. You introduced me to coffee shops. Smoking, drinking, LJ, and so many other things.

I know I'm probably wrong about this too, but I believe the one thing I did for you was introduce you to writing. But you were already poised to go further than I on that too. Soon enough, real life overtook my creativity, and my writing became mundane. (Or maybe I began to realize that it was always mundane) But you... You have this spark... The talent to move mountains, but not the desire.

This is getting too long... Great things can be accomplished. You just have to WANT them bad enough.

Ken

Re: Cough Cough... It's dusty in here. posteverything March 24 2009, 14:28:57 UTC

There's a lot in this comment, dear friend, and a lot I could say in return ( ... )

spyrals March 24 2009, 05:53:58 UTC

This post is actually making me want to toy with a man.
Nah not really. Nicely written, I like your mood. I was just wondering the other day where you've been.

posteverything March 24 2009, 14:32:40 UTC

You should! Go out there and break some hearts, lady!

Okay, nah.

Thank you, by the way. I just figured everyone would have done forgotten about me by now...but it stands to reason, I haven't forgotten about you guys.

anonymous March 24 2009, 07:53:59 UTC

Ouch. So true. And voiced so well. And so very true. Even though I never was exposed to chauvinism... so i never got into that. And tho I never had a prom or stuff like that... Still, so very true.

No matter who or what or where or why you are, and tho everyone is, and sometimes vastly so, different... A Jilted Man is a Jilted Man.

posteverything March 24 2009, 14:36:53 UTC

I never went to prom either, or any of that stuff. I dated some back then, but I had no game. I do regret not taking advantage of all the great things you could do during those times...I was too busy being a jackass, really.

Why "ouch", though? Who is this?

anonymous March 24 2009, 23:40:08 UTC

Aaand... back to James Spader... who got to record a great song today. At least, he thinks it's great. Written a few years back, for someone James will never see or talk to again. It's funny... the time... and the distance brought clarity and made my approach towards the project more levelheaded. I'm theorizing on doing this with more sad songs. Whether sad & vicious or just plain sad. Write them in the heat of passion and edit/amend and then record them when totally over her. Best of all, I seem a little less vicious and they don't get hurt... cos of the high level disconnection. I'm serious about this...

posteverything March 25 2009, 15:05:55 UTC

Ah, of course, James. :)

From what you've said of your process, I think I like it. Often releasing something that caustic so immediately to the ether is hardly representational of what it is exactly you wish to say, to put out there.

Some of my posts in here have taken weeks to write, just to present an example.

Maybe you should think about getting one of these, too.

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oh joy! dusty_chenille March 24 2009, 13:37:58 UTC

It is nice to see your work again! And this is really well done. And in general I get the sense that things are good with you which is awesome. Yay-- thanks, posteverything! :)

Sincerely,
Dusty Chenille,
not jilting men since at least the 90s :)

Re: oh joy! posteverything March 25 2009, 15:12:50 UTC

Thanks Lisa, my longtime LJ compatriot. :)

See, I hoped that I had shed more light on the underlying message herein this post than it appears: that it's okay for women to contribute to the creation of jilted men...but upon re-reading, it appears that I didn't. Ah well. I mean, if that had never happened to me, myself, I wouldn't be where I'm at now, which is a good place (as you can tell). But I guess those truths are ultimately left to the individual to stumble upon/devise on their own. No post from an aging hipster is ever going to help.