I find it difficult to mediate between the ideal and the realistic. Not so much for other people; if a coping strategy works for them, power to them ( Read more... )

Another aspect of openness that I meant to get to in my last entry is its current status. It's like being open isn't an option these days; it's a mandate. People feel completely entitled to demand that others be open, and to castigate them if they are not ( Read more... )

I know it was insensitive and even non-PC, but I rather liked the "stalking/stalked by" variant on the info pages this morning.

This was triggered by a post by cherishedelf, after being vaguely on my mind for a while ( Read more... )

I'm writing this because I seem to be saying some pretty similar things in several replies, and am thinking if I could just point people to a post I'd save a lot of typing. Yeah, I'm lazy. :) (This also gives me a chance to spell-check and refine my wording, which I usually don't remember to do when posting a reply ( Read more... )

       Marriage is love.

First, I don't much care for the term. For me it reeks of non-volitional, usually class- and/or race-based inequity. And although I'm submissive in some ways, I have a strong, almost primal, attraction to equity (to the point where even my religious path does not draw any clear hierarchy between gods and other people ( Read more... )

There's a list of kink-aware professionals of various sorts- therapists, lawyers, doctors and more- here. It seems to be mostly USA, but other countries are included.

I hope everyone has a wonderful next few days, whatever you celebrate if anything. There! Politically correct and sincerely meant, both!

After wrestling for quite a while now with my concerns about bdsm, I'm starting to think it may be time to see a therapist again, this time with the intention to focus specifically on bdsm as my history of abuse relates to it, and with the intention of assessing whether or not it's healthy for me, or what parts are and are not and how to figure ( Read more... )