Hey Scott, that was a beautiful post. I can tell that what you said about eventually things getting better is true. I remember a girl that lived on my floor told me to trust her, that things would get better, after my dad, my best friend, passed away. At the time, I felt like she didn't know what I was feeling, and that things would never be the same, that things would never get better. How could the empty feeling ever fill up again. But she was right. She probably knew from her own experiences. I hope time passes quickly and the empty feeling will fill up. See you soon.
Whatever you're feeling, it's valid. There's no right or wrong way to feel. I can identify with what you're going through but I won't say "I know how you feel." because while I have some idea, your feelings are your own. When my ex died I got so pissed off every time someone used that line on me. No one knows how you feel but you, because you're the one experiencing them and your relationship with Paul was unique from everyone else's, including his other friends.
Having been through some of this - and having seen other friends go through it - you're reactions are all normal. The numbness, the despair, the unreality - it's all normal.
Hang on to your wife and friends. This will get easier over time.
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i cant imagine this pain.
i dont even want to think about how fucking bad your heart hurts right now.
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Paul sounds like a wonderful guy.
Whatever you're feeling, it's valid. There's no right or wrong way to feel. I can identify with what you're going through but I won't say "I know how you feel." because while I have some idea, your feelings are your own. When my ex died I got so pissed off every time someone used that line on me. No one knows how you feel but you, because you're the one experiencing them and your relationship with Paul was unique from everyone else's, including his other friends.
Hang in there.
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Having been through some of this - and having seen other friends go through it - you're reactions are all normal. The numbness, the despair, the unreality - it's all normal.
Hang on to your wife and friends. This will get easier over time.
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