Comments | whipslave20: Building a wall out of helplessness bricks?

whipslave20

Building a wall out of helplessness bricks?

May 27, 2010 01:51

I'm a member of the Canberra Subs & Slaves group of Fetlife. Recently a post went up in the group explaining that because someone had tried "misrepresenting themselves to join our group and troll for subs", they had "taken the regrettable step of removing switches from our group."

This bothered me.

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impulsivedesire May 27 2010, 03:25:22 UTC

I totally agree with your stance on the post you mentioned. I think a lot of times people tend to purge on FL a lot more quickly than they should. It's always a lot of "we're so sorry.." and "there's no option other than for us to.." which is an impolite way of saying "we're too busy to be bothered to take the time to think of a real solution".

whipslave20 May 27 2010, 11:13:54 UTC

The response so far is mixed. The policy may or may not be recanted but even if it has been my impression of the group has dropped considerably.

Mitzi tsks ... anonymous May 27 2010, 07:49:41 UTC

Make way for indignant rage expressed on your behalf ... although the purge is so ridiculously pathetic I feel it is a waste of my rage.

Subs and slaves who are not comfy or OK around Switches can fuck off into a ditch and die slowly. The 'switch' label is inclusive of sub. Going one way does not mean you are incapable of going the other way, and not without all the headspacery that entails.

I do think you struck the right tone, Whispter, and a lot more patiently and logically than I would have.

The whole fiasco is akin to gay groups shutting out bi people. Some bi men recently sued a gay sports event for saying they weren't gay enough to participate.

When sexuality and lifestyle groups get more and more exclusive, the less interesting and important they become.

Re: Mitzi tsks ... whipslave20 May 27 2010, 11:22:09 UTC

I'm good at indignant rage in my head, but I never seem to let it out in the real world.

I can't believe I didn't think about it that way. In excluding switches, they are necessarily excluding subs. It's as though they are declaring that some subs are more equal than others.

The Convicts manage to accept me, and I manage to get by with being hit on. Now that's a situation where I might be justified in feeling incomfortable, but, like a reasonable person surrounded by reasonable people, I get over it.

the_engel May 27 2010, 12:12:24 UTC

"Am I about to become ravenous and predatory" I'm sure the ones that read to many romance novels are hoping. Was going to put a cute quote here, but I got distracted amongst the "ripping clothes" and "Rosy pink nipples"

Been reading the sub group for a bit, not surprised Canberra looks to be a bit of a mess some days. But then so can Sydney.

whipslave20 May 27 2010, 13:47:05 UTC

Canberra has not been interesting kink wise for a while. For me at least.