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calling all geeky girls
I just came across a call for papers about geeky girls (written by geeky girls) that I thought I'd share here, in case anyone reading might have an interest in writing up an essay. I love the idea but can't think of anything to say myself, at least not right at this moment. And probably not on such short notice.
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the relative merits of the primary/secondary model of polyamorous relationships
At a recent poly gathering the topic of primaries vs. secondaries came up, and while people were talking about their various configurations and what they like and don't like about them, I pondered the extent to which these labels work for me ( Read more... ) -
coffee's newest convert
Would you believe that I've made it the ripe old age of 38 without ever being a regular coffee drinker? Well, that's about to change. ( Read more... ) -
the miracle of intellectual intimacy
Very few times in my life have I gotten involved with someone with whom I have the potential for both emotional/physical and intellectual intimacy, but I find myself in that situation now and I love it. I love that we can go from talking about emotions and personal experience to discussing politics, science, history or technology. And then back ( Read more... ) -
reflections on getting involved with a man
One of the more interesting things about getting involved with a man is that I am having to become conscious once again of what it means to me to be a woman, as I am never more aware of my femaleness than when I am around non female people. When I interacted almost entirely with other women, I felt I could forget my gender and just interact as a ( Read more... ) -
my one concession to convention
As much as I enjoy bucking convention in almost every conceivable way, my one concession to convention seems to be my appearance, and particularly the way I dress. I've been struggling for a while now to find a way to dress that feels comfortable and seems appropriate for the environments I find myself in, and I keep coming back to the same sort ( Read more... ) -
why men? why now?
I've been giving a lot of thought to why it seems that so many lesbians start opening themselves up to the possibility of exploring a relationship with a man when they hit their late thirties or early forties, and I wonder to what extent there could be biology involved (as much as I hate to admit it, wanting to believe myself free of its impulses ( Read more... ) -
"Women in Love" (not really)
Last week I went to see "Women in Love," which is a documentary made by a woman who chronicles several years of her life and her relationships through taping herself and the people she's involved with. The film sets out to explore questions like why her relationships don't last, why she decides to pursue non monogamy and why she ends up wanting to ( Read more... ) -
why I became a lesbian
I've been thinking through the process that resulted in my coming out as a lesbian, and the various forces that shaped what felt to me more like a decision than a recognition of something biological or innate. While I do believe that for some women, the drive to have romantic and sexual relationships with other women is more or less hard wired ( ( Read more... ) -
what I'm looking for (or, how I became "guy curious")
I've been giving a lot of thought lately to what exactly I'm looking for, now that I've discovered all these wonderful ways of connecting with new people. It's hard to believe that they've been out there all along but I was just too caught up in my narrow little obsessive hobby, as unfulfilling as it was, to find them ( Read more... )