Comments | deej_1: It's Official

deej_1

It's Official

Oct 04, 2007 18:19

As of today, I am officially a single woman again. The divorce went through smoothly and I got the papers in the mail today. The weird thing is after everything that's happened in the last 15 months, it was a bit anti-climatic. I'm not sad, just relieved that it's over and I can really move on now ( Read more... )

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lijuun October 5 2007, 01:49:30 UTC

Um . . . congratulations. I felt nothing but extreme relief when I found out mine was final. I'd guess you feel something like that.

I was surprised to find out how easy it was to change my name back. I did it even before we filed for divorce, while I had a truck full of stuff that I had cleared out, I stopped by the government offices and got that started. I couldn't wait! But I had only been married a year, so . . .

Still, though, it'll be easier than you think to change it back. Not sure how difficult it would be to get used to your maiden name again, though.

Congrats, again. It seems an odd thing to congratulate someone for, but it is definitely a hard-won accomplishment of sorts, isn't it?

frodo_esque October 5 2007, 02:22:42 UTC

Wow, I'm glad it went smoothly for you and you can now look forward towards the (bright) future.

Best of luck on deciding the last name situation...

arevanye October 5 2007, 03:22:00 UTC

I'm glad you're through the tunnel and on the other side now.

And even if you change your name back--the junk mail is forever. :P

deej_1 October 5 2007, 12:14:27 UTC

How right you are. I still get the occasional piece of mail with my maiden name on in, and as I said I haven't gone by that name in 12 years!

arevanye October 5 2007, 15:10:25 UTC

We've gotten mail addressed to Scott's ex's first name, my maiden last name. How the heck does THAT happen?

gtshuya October 5 2007, 13:45:29 UTC

I'm glad that everything went smoothly and that you feel relieved. :) I don't know what I'd do about the name either - it's good you have a bit longer to think about it.

I got your message last night pretty late. Would you maybe want to see a movie Monday night? I have no idea what's coming out or anything, but I know I'm free Monday and I'm sure there'd be something we both want to see!

deej_1 October 5 2007, 16:07:23 UTC

'Into the Wild' is playing at the Landmark; maybe we could see that?

fantasy_fan October 5 2007, 21:41:02 UTC

You'd think there'd be a bang, rather than a whisper, wouldn't you?

I'm glad you're feeling like you're moving on. As to the name, how odd did it feel to you when you changed your name after the marriage? If that was hard for you to get used to, it will probably be hard to change it back, and maybe not worth it. If it was no big deal, I bet it would be no big deal this time either.

Either way, the original source of your last name (father or ex) isn't what defines you. You have a fresh start inside, where it matters anyway, no matter what you call yourself.