Do you have access to your significant other's phone? I don't mean, you have his passcode, but are they pretty comfortable with you using it if you want?
Is it normal if they take the phone everywhere with them, including the bathroom, so you can't see it?
If you had a disability that you knew would never get any better, & someone offered you a pill to take it away, but it meant being a totally different person with a different life to the one you had, & you had no way of finding out whether it would be better/worse than this one, would you take it?? Why/why not?